My husband refuses to shower. He becomes combative if I try to encourage or coax him. I had an aide come and he was combative with her. Now he refuses to use toilet paper after a bm. Sometimes it takes me two days to get him to change from the soiled underwear.
I can’t take it anymore and I am placing him in a care facility next week. I am afraid they might decide not to let him stay if he continues this kind of behavior.
He was diagnosed with ALZ 8 years ago.
Id suggest hubs get evaluated by his doc and medicated before the move. I don’t like the med route but when dementia gets bad there is really no other way. My dad is calm and at peace now, not a zombie, and the staff can care for him properly without fear of being assaulted.
I have also seem cases where the person is BETTER removed from family where there can be a bit of frustration with wanting something done, etc. You will know how it is going as it goes along. Be ready to see some visits to doctor to get him on some medications to help with this transition.