I lost my job when my father had his stroke & I had to take care of him full time. My husband has also lost his job bc of this situation. My father has money to pay us for caring for him if he wanted to but will not. He also wants me to give money (1grand/mth)to my sister who has not called/visited since he had his & stroke (over a year) & he's already helped her by paying the downpayment to her house. I'm afraid I'm going to take care of him & basically be poverty stricken when he passes away, but I've already lost so much bc of this situation (money, job, had to sell my car to pay bills) that I really have nothing at this point. I feel like this is a lose-lose situation and I've become an endentured servant. my friends are telling me to leave and take care of myself but we have nothing in the bank bc we didn't know my father had money and paid for things for awhile- when I got control of his finances I realized that he had money and that we were being suckered. We sold our cars for money early after we lost our jobs and my father requires 24 hour care. Does anyone have any suggestions?
All of your money is gone and yet your dad wants you to give money to your sister? That is crazy! You in a loose loose situation and you have become an indentured servant. Has your dad lied to you in the past? If so, why did you trust him this time? How long have you been taking care of him.
Now that you have control of his finances, I would not send your sister any money. If you decide to stay, then only spend his money on his care, hire others to look after him during he day and go out and find a job if possible.
I assume that you have durable POA for your dad since you are in control of his fiances?
You rights--- well you should get some compensation, but that would require a carefully worded contract drawn up by an attorney. Go see Dad's attorney and see what you can work out.