Can a board and care facility just up and transfer my mother to another board and care facility just because they do not like her?
My mother reported the owner/caretaker, Myrna, to her psychiatrist for abuse because the woman is screaming at her constantly. The psychiatrist reported her to adult protective services. I met this woman and she IS very abrasive to my mother, even in front of me. She is frustrated and angry with my mother because my mother cannot get around due to casts on both legs. I began looking for a different home, but without much luck because my mother has a tiny income. Then this woman treated my mother so roughly in front of a nurse and receptionist, and was so rude to the receptionist at my mother's doctor appointment, that my mother's primary care doctor called the police to report her for elder abuse again. I finally found a board and care home to tour with my sister next week, but frankly the place looks frightening on googlemaps even if the woman on the phone sounds nice. Then Myrna calls me and says that my mother will be moved out on Monday, that she is taking her to the bank to get cash out, (another thing that i am VERY uncomfortable with!) But when asked, she didn't know the name of the place, and wasn't certain of the owner's name, but gave me the name Nellie. She did give me a phone number and I have been able to do a search since then. What I am angriest at is that she tells me on a Saturday when I cannot get a hold of this new place, or the agency I am working with, so that I can find out if it is a safe place to place my mother. Myrna tells me that she wants my mother out because she has another person coming in who is going to pay more money. And she tells me that my mother should not lie so much. I assume she means about the emotional abuse.
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Maxxs Granny, I use googlemaps because they take photos of the outside of addresses, this gives me an idea of what neighborhoods and individual homes look like from the outside. Think about it, you don't want your loved one to live in what looks like a broken down home.
The next thing my sister and I need to do is get durable power of attorney, We have no idea how you do that.
Found out mom's doctor's appointment wasn't where I thought. Fortunately, I did know where it was. Mom's casts came off; both of them! She has been given boots. She doesn't like the walker I bought, (naturally), so the doctor prescribed one that she does like. She is supposed to call the Physical Therapy people in two days; I asked the board/care owner to please remind her. They seem to be very kind. The home is clean, cluttered, but clean. I don't care as long as they are clean. Heck, I AM cluttered, LOL!
Took me a while to unpack and put everything away neatly for mom. Kinda hurt that all her pics were of my second dad and none of my own dad. I love both of them, but hey, my daddy, huh? I called my sis and she tells me that it upsets her too. My dad loved her so much and I know his faults, every single one of them, but nothing he did deserves such disdain. My mother has done nothing but hurt me, my entire life from infancy, and use us all.
After I unpacked and put it all away nicely, I filled out a hundred papers. Well, at least it felt like it. Mom wanted me to got to the pharmacy and pick her up something for a cold sore, but I told her I was exhausted, (8:30pm), and I still hadn't had more than a tiny bag of potato chips the whole day long. She was unhappy with me, but took it fairly well.
I'm going to sleep after I check email, and facebook for my daughter. She has lost her cellphone. I want to heart about her OB appt today. I am having another grandchild.
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crystalmoon, neither my sister or myself live in an apartment large enough to have room for my mother. Nor are we equipped emotionally to deal with her. you might think that sounds horrible, but we think we are smart not to take care of her if it would cause us to snap. And it so totally would; I assure you. My sister visits her at least once a week, and I take her to her doctor appointments which seem to happen weekly or biweekly. My mom is a hypochondriac.