My parents are 95 and 96, living independently in their home. Barely, as of late. I, the only child, live 300 miles away and am struggling to be able to keep up with helping in all the ways that they need help.
My mother has finally said that she'd consider moving into an assisted living apartment. But, given my dad's (quickly) developing dementia, I don't know if a facility would allow him to live with my mother if he has dementia. I think he could fool them enough right now to get in, but I think within six months form now he'll be fully in the state of dementia. If that is the case, would an assisted living facility require him to move out from assisted living and into memory care, separating my parents?
The answer really depends upon the facility. Different facilities have different rules.
My mom was in a lovely rehab after her stroke; we had hoped to keep her there for LTC afterwards. But she developed Vascular Dementia and they accepted NO one with a dementia dx in their AL section.
We found a different, equally lovely AL that was fine with her being admitted with a Dx of dementia.
You will need to identify a bunch of likely facilities and call each one. Then visit.
I sure wish you best of luck. These arrangements are sometimes made on trial basis with options for change available.
I'm alternatively looking for in-home care, but that's the subject of another thread.