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My parents are 95 and 96, living independently in their home. Barely, as of late. I, the only child, live 300 miles away and am struggling to be able to keep up with helping in all the ways that they need help.


My mother has finally said that she'd consider moving into an assisted living apartment. But, given my dad's (quickly) developing dementia, I don't know if a facility would allow him to live with my mother if he has dementia. I think he could fool them enough right now to get in, but I think within six months form now he'll be fully in the state of dementia. If that is the case, would an assisted living facility require him to move out from assisted living and into memory care, separating my parents?

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There are a few out there that take in both parents for a cost.
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Thank you all for the answers. I'll call around and see what they say.

I'm alternatively looking for in-home care, but that's the subject of another thread.
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AlvaDeer Dec 7, 2023
Good idea to check Board and Cares as well. Becoming more and more rare, but more homelike and sometimes run by families.
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Definitely depends upon the facility. At my brother's the answer would have been yes, as long as arrangements were made that the parent with some level of dementia didn't wander, and/or was with the spouse almost all the time. So arrangements of this type are up for discussion. Also at my brother's facility there was often a more well spouse in ALF and the one with dementia in memory care with a whole lot of visitation, accompanying out for walk or to sit about the gazebo or in the large common lodge. So it is up to the facility. Visit as many as you can and ask about this, ask about how levels of care impact costs and etc. The ability to discuss this with you will be that you have all your facts, your assets at the fore and ready to present, and the amount of time they take with you will honestly be a good way to evaluate the facility itself.

I sure wish you best of luck. These arrangements are sometimes made on trial basis with options for change available.
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My friend’s parents did that. He had dementia and she had some mobility issues. They were there for five years. This was 15 or so years ago.
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Welcome, Slos!

The answer really depends upon the facility. Different facilities have different rules.

My mom was in a lovely rehab after her stroke; we had hoped to keep her there for LTC afterwards. But she developed Vascular Dementia and they accepted NO one with a dementia dx in their AL section.

We found a different, equally lovely AL that was fine with her being admitted with a Dx of dementia.

You will need to identify a bunch of likely facilities and call each one. Then visit.
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