Using tv remote to try and make a call. Using the phone to change channels on the tv. Does not remember how to check blood sugar or use her insilin pump.
May be medication related.
So any recommendations for how to proceed to give us the best chance for a proper diagnosis ?
rather than hit "reply" to your last post I will respond this way.
You want to know what treatment options there are...
For dementia there really is no "treatment" that will make her "better"
There are medications that are supposed to slow the decline but the decline will continue.
So bottom line it is up to you to determine :
If you can safely care for her at home by yourself. I will tell you right now you can not do this alone. Hiring caregivers is an option. Do not rely completely on family and or friends. It is not fair to them.
I made the cut off for me Safety. As long as it was safe for my Husband to remain at home...as long as it was safe for me for my Husband to remain at home he would stay. But as soon as I could no longer safely care for him I would have had to make the decision to place him. Luckily he was compliant and he remained at home until the day he died.
I did have help from Hospice the last 3 years of his life. I had the help of the VA as well. I could not have done it without both.
So do not let anyone tell you that you should do this..or you should do that...
Only YOU know what is right for you and for your wife.
As the facilitator of a Support Group I go to says..."Don't should on yourself"
As this disease changes her it will change you and it will change your decisions.
If you have ever "promised" each other that you would never put the other in a "Nursing home" remember that that person you made the promise to no longer exists.
One other thing to consider..a trip to a lawyer that specializes in Elder Law. Get POA for Health and Finances in order. Do what you need to do to protect yourself and make things easier financially.
Might be a bit early but consider End of Life decisions What measures do you want to take. Check out a document called a POLST much more detailed than a DNR.
Take care of yourself.
This is a difficult Journey you both are on.
I am not on insulin, but I do the TV remote/telephone/cell phone/iPad switch up once in a while (all the time) and so does DH. Since we live in a very high pressure environment just at present, we laugh it off.
Before you see her doctor, make a list of any changes, good or bad, that she’s experienced recently, and a separate list of things you’ve observed that you think indicate out of the ordinary in her day to day activities.
Also, jot down how she reacts to these missteps.
Before you go to her doctor together, make a copy of these lists and mail them to the doctor’s office. They can be useful to the doctor if you find any additional quirks showing up in the future.
Medications, change of sleep habits, blood sugar levels, thyroid status, happy AND unhappy stressors- all of these and a whole bunch more stuff can cause this kind of result. I speak from experience.
Fran has had major back surgery in the past (L2 thru S1 fusion). This is why the pain meds were prescribed. She also has had a triple bypass in 2012 and then stents placed a year later.
Has been a Type 1 diabetic for 50 years and has been on a Medtronic CGM pump system for 12 years, which keeps her diabetes well controlled. Last A1C was 5.2. Better than Mine.
So now it is down to meds and/or onset of dementia or delirium. She was ver angry when I called 911, even though I explained the reasons.
Confusion, very lethargic, etc. No interest in taking care of herself. I can't even get her to get in the car to transport her to the doctor.
This morning still angry and blaming me. The geriatric specialist looks to be the way to go. Fran's neurologst referred us to a Certified Neuropsychologist, however appointment 3rd week of September. Will try to push that to an earlier date or find a geriatric specialist with an earlier time-frame. That is IF I can get her to go.
After researching the options it appears that it is not against the law to not take care of oneself. So frustrating.
Hope your eye surgery went well and got you the results you wanted.
blessings to you both.
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