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A very vague question but there are tons of posters here dealing with this issue. If you want more help you might explain how it is directly affecting your life and what the behaviors are and what you can do to help you deal with it
I'm right there with you - those two words say it all. If you are anything like me, that's probably all you can gasp out after having to deal with her all day long. Or, maybe you are still in the discovery phase, having experienced that OMG/AHA moment when you stumbled upon an article that opened your eyes and now everything makes sense. Perhaps you are beyond the discovery phase and are now in the back-tracking phase. The one where you are rethinking the whole "mom is a narcissist" revelation. You feel guilty because she was such a GOOD mom (until you reflect upon the suffocating control, the use of guilt to get you to do what she wanted). Or maybe you feel guilty because she was such an AWFUL mom, why pile more on her?
Now that you have named it, you are probably reading everything you can about narcissistic mothers. At first it made so much sense but the more you read, the less certain you become. And that is an oddly depressing thought because you thought finally you had it figured out - why your mom was so different than all the other moms. I've spent years trying to figure out how an obviously loving mom could be so toxic. During my many Google searches, I stumbled upon 'Covert Narcissism" and there it was, there SHE was.
Chances are, if reading about 'narcissistic mothers' was an empowering moment for you, then regardless of whether or not she checks off all the boxes, she's in there somewhere.
And then again, maybe I'm just having a particularly bad day dealing with my narcissistic mother who doesn't give a damn that she's a 'total' (what they called her at the IRF), she is NOT leaving her home. She's going to buy a car online for when she's better (which will be the twelfth of never). She's preparing to come home....again...after the 6th hospitalization this year and I'm moving out. I'm done. She wants to stay in her home? She can figure it out.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I'm right there with you - those two words say it all. If you are anything like me, that's probably all you can gasp out after having to deal with her all day long. Or, maybe you are still in the discovery phase, having experienced that OMG/AHA moment when you stumbled upon an article that opened your eyes and now everything makes sense. Perhaps you are beyond the discovery phase and are now in the back-tracking phase. The one where you are rethinking the whole "mom is a narcissist" revelation. You feel guilty because she was such a GOOD mom (until you reflect upon the suffocating control, the use of guilt to get you to do what she wanted). Or maybe you feel guilty because she was such an AWFUL mom, why pile more on her?
Now that you have named it, you are probably reading everything you can about narcissistic mothers. At first it made so much sense but the more you read, the less certain you become. And that is an oddly depressing thought because you thought finally you had it figured out - why your mom was so different than all the other moms. I've spent years trying to figure out how an obviously loving mom could be so toxic. During my many Google searches, I stumbled upon 'Covert Narcissism" and there it was, there SHE was.
Chances are, if reading about 'narcissistic mothers' was an empowering moment for you, then regardless of whether or not she checks off all the boxes, she's in there somewhere.
And then again, maybe I'm just having a particularly bad day dealing with my narcissistic mother who doesn't give a damn that she's a 'total' (what they called her at the IRF), she is NOT leaving her home. She's going to buy a car online for when she's better (which will be the twelfth of never). She's preparing to come home....again...after the 6th hospitalization this year and I'm moving out. I'm done. She wants to stay in her home? She can figure it out.
So what's up with your narcissistic mom today? :)