My brother who thinks he is the patriach since my father died....wants all the money and property that is left. There is 221 acres left but little money.. I have taken care of my father and my mother for over 7 years. My father died 5 years ago. I am still taking care of my mother...
They never help me... only come down to play and have fun... Now they want to know about the money and property,.. I feel like I'm nothing to any of them...they all make well over 100,00.000 and still have the nerve to ask me about their money???? What should I say or do????
As far as how they treat you, speak up and tell them how you feel.
Are you Moms POA, if so you are not obligated to give them any info. Actually as her representative you shouldn't. Just make sure you keep good records. If Mom has a Will then brother will need to wait till Mom passes. If not, at her passing you can become an administer to her estate. You will handle the same thing an Executor does only...the state determines who inherits. If an Executor, they have to go by the Will who inherits.
Another way to look at this is that you, on your mother's behalf, also need to know about the money and the property - so that you can develop a clear plan (which needs to be flexible) based on what resources she has to fund her remaining time.
Put mother in the middle of it. She can, God willing, expect to live for ....... . She will need, as far as anyone can tell, ......... hours of care each day. The cost of this equates to $........ per month. Her assets are assessed at approximately $....... at fair market value.
How are these numbers adding up?!
It sounds as if it is about time that your siblings were made to understand that mother's care does not come free of charge, even though it is YOU who has been paying the cost of it so far with your time and your care.
This could be an opportunity for everyone to recognise the immense contribution you have been making, in terms that they understand.
Your mom is in control of her money. Unless you bring it up she may do nothing to remedy your situation.