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According to your profile your mom lives with you, so why can't you just take her false teeth from her when she gets ready for bed and put them in the container yourself? That would be such a simple solution, and would hopefully decrease your stress. You also say that mom has dementia, so it really is unrealistic to expect her to remember to do anything. As you will learn when caring for someone with dementia, you must pick your battles wisely. I'm not sure this one is worth it. Best wishes.
At least you know where she is putting them and not having to hunt all over the house for them. When you are getting her ready for bed just take the teeth and place them in the container you want them to be in. Simple. "Problem" solved. There are far more stressful things that come up don't let the little stuff get to you. And what that boils down to is 99% of the "stuff" is little stuff.
These little things sure can be annoying. The above posters have solved this issue - have your mom give you her teeth before bed.
Since she has dementia, it has become unreasonable for you to expect her to remember and do as you ask. About anything and everything. Sometimes, she might remember but never consistently. Change your expectations and you will be a little bit less stressed.
I keep trying to get it through my head that her brain is broken as I hear on here. It’s all so weird and hard to understand, but I am trying to accept and learn. Thank you!
Thank you for your reply.. You are right. I’ve been focusing on how gross it is and how much I hate that she has false teeth instead of thinking of a simple solution. I am thankful for you all and this forum.
I've got a different take on this; why does her denture have to come out at night? I wear an upper denture & NEVER take it out while sleeping. I remove it some time in the morning, soak it/clean it, then put it back in my mouth after the cleansing process which only takes 10 minutes. I remember my grandmother had to take her teeth out at night to allow them to soak overnight in a cup on her nightstand. Those days are long gone now with the advent of 10 minute Polident tablets.
Kick 'normal' to the curb now and do whatever makes YOUR life easier to manage in the long run. Dementia changes continuously anyway. Just as soon as you think "I've got this", your mom will throw a monkey wrench into your best laid plans & you'll watch it all go to hell in a hurry. Keep your plans flexible and you'll be best off.
LOL. My mom got dentures back in the 40's because that was what people who had crooked teeth did back then (no braces). She never, ever took her teeth out except when she cleaned them or had surgery, when I was young I didn't even realize she had dentures!
PollyN, It is easy to get focused on what or how things "should" be. And that is what you would do if things were "normal". With dementia you are dealing with a world where normal no longer exists. Start to focus on what will make YOUR life easier as you care for her. As long as you can keep things easy for you the less stress you will have and that will reflect on how she reacts. And if she is "easy" to care for then that makes things even easier for you. And give yourself a break, spending some time with her now when she can participate in doing things, conversation is more important than a load of wash or running a vacuum over the floor. Time will come when she can not do these things and you will have lots of time to vacuum.
You now have to take them out & place them in the container w polident tablet. You can’t count on your mother to do it & maybe she damage or lose them! Hugs 🤗
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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As you will learn when caring for someone with dementia, you must pick your battles wisely. I'm not sure this one is worth it. Best wishes.
When you are getting her ready for bed just take the teeth and place them in the container you want them to be in. Simple. "Problem" solved.
There are far more stressful things that come up don't let the little stuff get to you. And what that boils down to is 99% of the "stuff" is little stuff.
Since she has dementia, it has become unreasonable for you to expect her to remember and do as you ask. About anything and everything. Sometimes, she might remember but never consistently. Change your expectations and you will be a little bit less stressed.
Kick 'normal' to the curb now and do whatever makes YOUR life easier to manage in the long run. Dementia changes continuously anyway. Just as soon as you think "I've got this", your mom will throw a monkey wrench into your best laid plans & you'll watch it all go to hell in a hurry. Keep your plans flexible and you'll be best off.
Good luck!
It is easy to get focused on what or how things "should" be. And that is what you would do if things were "normal".
With dementia you are dealing with a world where normal no longer exists.
Start to focus on what will make YOUR life easier as you care for her. As long as you can keep things easy for you the less stress you will have and that will reflect on how she reacts. And if she is "easy" to care for then that makes things even easier for you.
And give yourself a break, spending some time with her now when she can participate in doing things, conversation is more important than a load of wash or running a vacuum over the floor. Time will come when she can not do these things and you will have lots of time to vacuum.
Hugs 🤗