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Yes. It is fine. You must have boundaries. Not to worry as those in memory care seldom remember that they have called, or whether or not you answer. Are they placing the calls alone? Well enough to do this? Or is staff doing it. If staff is doing this then they are using YOU to deal with confusion and agitation. That is their job. Tell them that unless it is an emergency you will only be accepting two brief calls a day, morning and evening. Be sure you have an answering machine and monitor the calls, answer when you are ready to.
You'd be answering straight up if he were home. Chalk board in his room for important reminders. Once you got that done, screening calls ok in my league
I set a time every day to call my mother who lives in Memory Care. 7pm. That's it. I never know what kind of dreadful mood she's going to be in when I do call, so at least I can prepare myself beforehand.
Do what YOU have to do to keep your anxiety level managed, that's my suggestion. You know your DH is cared for and safe where he's at, so speaking with him once a day is plenty.
Does he have a cell? Does he really need it, like using it to call other people or is it just you. With the Virus, I know its a lifeline right now. Maybe when things start too open up you can lose it. You will be able to visit so no need for calls. The staff can call you when there is an emergency or something is needed. Request that they not allow him to use a facility phone.
If the facility is allowing him to call you on their phone now, then tell them, like suggested, only 1 orv2 calls a day.
And yes, you do not need to answer. Actually, I think being able to call you keeps him from adjusting to MC and relying on the staff, which by the way you are paying for.
I like Lealonnie's approach with a set time every night. You could advice staff of this too so they can assist.
My Mother will be heading into care soon & a phone is provided. Due to lockdown I can't even imagine the level of boredom, anxiety & loneliness she will face. I have been wondering about the phone issue too. Last time she didn't have one but called Dad every night (on staff phone). I was amazed once she could do that she didn't phone all the time... I suspect the staff policed it.
If your LO can call you every day (similar time) & this works & it is a nice positive for him & you. It keeps a bit of independance for him & less stress on you. But if the phone is causing distress, making things worse by his constant calls (not remembering he already called) or going unnswered (& he gets worried where you are) then staff may need to police it. Maybe the phone could be locked away for 'safety' & brought after dinner each evening?
You have to set limits, otherwise it will drive you crazy. Brother would call me 10 times a day to check on my mom and the rest of us. I would be in the middle doing something for my mom. Told him straight out 2-3 calls a day. Finally took phone off hook, if calls continued more than 2-3 times, but I have an answering machine so I get his messages. Different situation, but same point.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Do what YOU have to do to keep your anxiety level managed, that's my suggestion. You know your DH is cared for and safe where he's at, so speaking with him once a day is plenty.
Wishing you the best of luck moving forward
If the facility is allowing him to call you on their phone now, then tell them, like suggested, only 1 orv2 calls a day.
And yes, you do not need to answer. Actually, I think being able to call you keeps him from adjusting to MC and relying on the staff, which by the way you are paying for.
I like Lealonnie's approach with a set time every night. You could advice staff of this too so they can assist.
My Mother will be heading into care soon & a phone is provided. Due to lockdown I can't even imagine the level of boredom, anxiety & loneliness she will face. I have been wondering about the phone issue too. Last time she didn't have one but called Dad every night (on staff phone). I was amazed once she could do that she didn't phone all the time... I suspect the staff policed it.
If your LO can call you every day (similar time) & this works & it is a nice positive for him & you. It keeps a bit of independance for him & less stress on you. But if the phone is causing distress, making things worse by his constant calls (not remembering he already called) or going unnswered (& he gets worried where you are) then staff may need to police it. Maybe the phone could be locked away for 'safety' & brought after dinner each evening?