She moved in after a month of knowing him and it gets worse. Her recent statement to him was 'Your family doesn't like me its either me or your family'. She is trying to fully control him. When I tried to talk to him about her he said to me you just don't want me to enjoy my life what are you after my inheritance. That DOES NOT sound like my father. She does not let the man go anywhere without her. We are not aloud to have alone time with him. He just bought her an engagement ring. She told him they need to get engaged because her friends (mind you she is 60 years old) said that they needed too because they were living together (yet she moved in after 1 month). She has my dad convinced they have been dating longer then they have been. We recently found out that she scammed other men. Can any legal action be taken against this woman?
Let me tell you a story about my favorite uncle! He had no children & met up with this woman that liked to brag about outliving 5 other husbands. She was a retired RN. No one had heard of her before, anyway, I was his favorite niece, I was his flower girl at age 3, when he married his first wife! I have 2 brothers & 2 sisters & he adored all of us including my parents. My sister was his executor & in his will he had left his entire estate to us. He had left his home to my parents. Anyway, he met this gal, named Eileen & she changed him. Before he met her I talked to him every day. Once he met her, none of my family heard from him, I would call him, only got her & she would say he was sleeping, at work or not at home. To make a long story short, my mom got a call that he was dying, by the time she & her siblings got there, he had been dead for 2 hours. The funeral, she had no seats set up for the family & he was close to his family! His will had been changed & we had no way to ofject to any of it. My mom inquired about having an autopsy due to his sudden & rare death, the death certificate said he had died from a rare brain tumor only heriditary, only none of the family had ever had such. They were never able to get the autopsy done! My uncles entire estate, including the money he got from his parents estate, my grandparents, went to Eileen! I talked to a doctor I know & he told me a rat poison could have caused a brain tumor like that! I am telling you this story, because I wish you could stop anything from happening to your dad, she may be harmless just controling, but find out all you can while you can. Eileen didn't live very long after my uncle, but the whole family thought she had poisoned him. I can't tell you how I've missed my uncle over the years, I adored him! He was my mom's youngest brother & it has hurt her tremendously over the years. He lived with my parents while he went to college. He was a very intelligent man & you'd think he would have been smarter than that, however it has nothing to do with smarts. If this woman is evil, they are very clever, if this is what she is up to. I am not trying to scare you, just want to protect your dad. He's not going to listen to you, but if you can find out all you can, maybe talking to her when you get your information would help, but he may disown all of his family, that's what my uncle did & I know if he was in his right mind, he never would have done that! It only took Eileen a few days to change my uncle, so she was giving him something, as fast as he changed! Maybe talk with a legal advisor? I don't know but my heart goes out to you & your family! There are such evil people out there!
I understand that an elderly person can become lonely and vulnerable, but what your Dad has fallen into is not love. This person needs to be extricated from his life sooner than later. If they marry, I am afraid that you will not be able to protect him. I would take the chance of angering my father rather than just look the other way and hope everything turns out alright. good luck...Lilli
Good Luck. God Bless You.
Jonathan
One other option, if you're truly concerned: hire a private investigator. They have the ability to dig up information quickly and quietly.
Best wishes.
Shelley
Chad
Your father will fight you. When elders are truly in love and there are no dementia issues (and no pressure, and no history like you describe), I do believe they have a right to love.
This does not sound like an innocent love affair, however. Please do get help. It could get ugly, but you want to try to protect your dad. If she has a paper trail of defrauding elderly men, it will be much easier.
Again, I'd say an attorney is necessary. Unless your dad has been declared incompetent, he can do as he wishes, but if a third party can show him where this woman is taking advantage of him, you may have some hope.
Take care and good luck,
Carol