Our 91 yr old mom is in ICU today sfter taking an overdose of sleeping pills. I am 69, eldest son. I was working in the basement at mom's when I overheard a very loud exchange upstairs. Sister was screaming insults, badgering, shouting mom down in a most insulting disrespectful humiliating way. I think it odd that 2 other sisters had called last night both saying mom was perfectly fine and in good spirits then I get email from POA today stating that mom had a meltdown and tried to kill herself last night. Orders were given to hospital not to talk to anyone who calls. Mom may now go into a home for observation and we are all outraged at this hostility and lack of real care. My sister doesnt know I overheard the incident. Confronting her is not a safe option No one can afford an attorney and we need help!
A very sad and unfortunate situation and sounds like the family needs to step up and make changes so that this won't happen again.
What I had written was at this point APS should not be called. This may have been a one time thing out off frustration. Don't get the Government involved till u have the full story.
Mom is going to be seen by a Psychiatrist. I think he needs to be informed in what you overheard. It may have been a catalyst for Moms attempt. You also need to tell sister you overheard. Maybe she should talk to the Psychiatrist. If being care provider to Mom and POA are too much for her, then maybe she should step down. Not everyone is cut out to be a caregiver. Seems like other siblings live close by to help Mom or maybe its time for an AL.
This has to be resolved for Moms sake. There should be no secrets. The Dr. can't help Mom if he doesn't know the facts.
There are attorneys that work pro bono on limited things. You might Google free legal aid in your area to see if you can find any that may help advise you.