My mother has been diagnosed as 'most likely' early onset Alz. She also shows signs of Parkinson's disease but her neurologist says he's baffled by her. She has declined quite a bit over this last year. She can't walk, or do anything for herself, even toileting. Tonight my daddy told me he doesn't know how much longer he can handle her accusing him of molesting and raping her. He's kept this to himself but is saying it's been going on awhile now. I believe she gets pretty aggressive with him about this as well. Has anyone else experienced similar situation or have any advice dealing with this type thing? I plan to call her doctor Monday and he's very open to doing anything to help so if anyone knows meds that may help her level her mood ect that would be great. Thanks!!
Is there anyone who can give your father a week or two off? It sounds like he needs to get away for a while. Maybe while he is gone, the doctors can find something that calms your mother. It has to be very hard on your father to hear such awful accusations. I believe it would be good to let the doctor know about the accusations, too, when you're looking for something that works. It will show that no one is trying to hide anything while looking.
Dementia seems to go through phases where certain things happen. I hope that this phase of accusation passes soon. It is bad enough to be accused of stealing. I can't imagine what it must feel like to be accused of rape and molestation.
Please reassure him frequently that nobody really thinks the accusations are true. He must feel emotionally rejected by her, which cuts to the bone. You always think that if your spouse becomes ill that you will be able to comfort them with nearness and affection if absolutely nothing else. To have that taken away is extremely sad and it hurts.
Risperidone/Risperdal is a very powerful anti-psychotic. Don't stop it suddenly and be very careful she gets it at the same time every day.
Make sure to note that if it's an extended release version, you can't dissolve it in anything or crush it up to hide it in food.
My mom is on it for her anger and paranoid delusions, and she is under 24/7 supervision. Two different doctors and her psychiatric nurse called me to make sure I understood the potential side effects - including death - before they would give it to her. The benefit outweighed the risks so I approved it. Mom was wild before. It is helping her significantly and I would not ask them to take her off it unless it was causing other problems.
one case I know of, the daughter cared for her father after her mother died. she did look like her. when he was mixed up he would approach her sexually because he was confused.. the worst part was after he was able to understand, he went in and out of various levels of the dementia, hewould have to be told his wife died and he would start mourning all over again and feeling guilty about his daughter. her brothe rbecame the caretaker and the sexual component was taken out although he did grieve over and over. maybe you can have a female caretaker help her with personal things since she no longer understands the spouse role of your father.