I am only child so I own the brunt of my mothers anger, and nasty comments. i live in another state and recently had to make the decision to place my mother into a group home close to her friends and church in Las Vegas which is in another state. I have no additional support to help me move her items (hoarder_) into storage there and running around to make her as comfortable as possible. I get constant texts attacking and nastiness yet i am trying to keep in mind that she is lashing out due to vulnerability, scared and afraid as she is on hospice for her CHF. Its became a Facebook attack from her friends and nasty comments and PM to me and up to including threats to call the cops like I had done something horrible to my mother. They don't realize she has been in and out of hospitals and weekly EMT calls to her apartment with one resulting in shoulder replacement surgery and the other a stroke. I would love to have my mom be able to live by herself. but it not a safe thing and i cant keep taking time out of my job and my finaces to keep coming down every week. and feeling so beat up by the time I leave to go home. I am exhausted and need help that things will get better. I know i made the right decision I pray for my mom to let go of the stuff and live while she can. it breaks my heart.
Do what makes it easy for YOU. Leave the negativity on Facebook, but, in a post they are sure to read, remind those people that if their comments become threatening or derogatory against you, an attorney will be happy to educate them about slander.
Let it go, unfriend all these people that think she should be able to die alone suffering from a break. Yeah, that's a good plan, huh?
You did the best you could, you know that. Just keep remembering that.