Mom is 87. She had a stroke Dec 2019. Paralyzed left side. Vascular Dementia diagnosis last week. Now not eating at all. Not taking meds. Sleeping all the time. Not talking at all. Doesn't seem to recognize anyone. Eyes are red and not quite open, seem stuck? She has thrush on her tongue and she isn't opening her mouth to take the meds. Very very hard to see her this way.
Not sure what to think or do. She is in hospital but they aren't saying much. Is she in the end stage of life?
Generally not eating is a sign of end of life.
You can ask the Hospital Social Worker to refer you to Hospice, I am sure there is a representative in the hospital most of the time. (some hospitals have a Hospice wing)
A warm moist cloth on her eyes might help.
If the reason she is not eating due to the thrush once that is resolved she may begin eating. I can imagine that could be painful.
Being in a hospital for anyone can be confusing and if you have dementia it can be even more confusing so I understand if she does not seem to recognize people. And if she is having problems with her eyes another reason to be confused about who is who.
I'm saying this gently and with compassion as someone who has walked this road before you - she's never going to recover to be the woman you are praying for her to be, please don't try to keep her here. I'm going to link a video that I found helpful:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNJxq4J5kYY