My father was moved into the memory Care center he has expressed rapid decline. With the covid he is very limited to his visits and his outings. Well actually now since the day he moved in here, he has been in a wheelchair and bed bath ever since. For the most part he was independent before moving in here. I would like to move him to my home so I can monitor his care and take care of him. I worry about the care he has received at the place where he is at.
But put your common sense hat on for a minute - Do you think one person can provide better care than a team of staff?
Why not investigate how to get him better care where he is? Talk to management, hire him a personal aide? Talk to his Doctor. Get a realistic view of his current status. Alz is progressive. Don't be in denial he will return to his old self.
Your profile says you have 2 children at home. Are you planning to abandon their care to care for your Father?
If you plan to bring Dad home, remember he will also be limited to his visits and his outings, that won't change until covid-19 is wiped off the map.
Will you have a "village" set up for his care? If not, will you be able to do the work of 3-full time shifts every day for 168 hours a week? https://www.agingcare.com/topics/29/caregiving/articles
You will need to set up your home similar to that of Memory Care. Such as placing locks on the outside doors that would be complex for your Dad to use, but not for anyone else. Some folks with Dementia try to go outside in the middle of the night. My Dad was trying to do that when he was in senior facility, Independent Living. Dad loved it there, so many people closer to his age to talk.
Please note that close to 40% of family caregivers die leaving behind the person they were caring, those are not good odds. Then what? Someone would need to place your Dad back into Memory Care.
You have so much to think about BEFORE bringing Dad to your home from Memory Care.
I would attend the consult with an attorney before any move.
I assume you are POA. Keep careful records of all costs, expenditures, and etc.
And of course, firstly and most crucial, be certain that you wish to take this on. If you have been on the Forum site for any amount of time you will see how very difficult this care is, how demanding, and etc.
Wishing you good luck.
Maybe that can help you as well.
Dementia individuals are full time care. It will be difficult to give attention to both children and your father, not to mention taking care of yourself.
You can hire a professional caregiver to help him. But there is also the issue of letting frustration into your home, when your dad becomes irritable and frustrates everyone. Either you or the caregiver you hire would need to handle that.
Either try to improve where he is now, or look into another memory care, or board and care
Wish you all the best