I really need some advice and I feel like an awful granddaughter for even saying this but I don’t want to be taking care of my grandparents anymore, it’s so hard, I hate that I am doing this by myself. I don’t know where else I can complain and I’m sorry. It is just that I have come to accept and realize that seeing them sick and having to be with them all the time is taking a toll on my mental health. (I have depression, anxiety, ptsd, along with psoriatic arthritis, thyroid problems and diabetes) My therapist has even told me that I need to move out because it is not good for me. I feel like I’m being a brat because I hate that I have to spend my Friday and Saturday nights staying in with them to make sure that they don’t fall or hurt themselves. I have tried going out during the weekdays as well but my grandma just guilt trips me and manipulates me into feeling like a horrible granddaughter. Mind you guys that I am the oldest out of 7 grandkids and no, none of them help. I’m just frustrated. I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry. I love my grandparents to death but I’m just so so tired.
Where are their children (your parents in particular)?
Are you in the US?
Do you attend school or work at a job?
Giving us some pertinent details will help us to give you better answers.
You are NOT a brat!!
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I am in the US and my parents work all week except Saturday and Sunday. My uncle is a paramedic who has to leave town every three days.
I am attending university right right now and it is hard to look for a job that is understanding with my schedule.
Thank you so much for your reply, it means a lot 💜
Japan has a culture of the family always cares for their elderly. Is that why you are stuck with this? You are 24 so grandparents must be in their 50's or early 60's?
Do they really need caregiving?
Are you in Japan? In the U.S. and other western countries caregiving for the elderly is not considered a responsibility of younger generations. You deserve your life. Where are your parents, why are they not doing or arranging for the needed care?
Give your parents a bit of notice, say two weeks to be fair, that they will need to be resuming THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITIES for the grandparents, and then hit the open road. Find some roommates, find a part-time job, and concentrate on your studies and future profession.
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