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He constantly reminds me how he “busted his balls” for years and no one worked as hard or did all the things he did! I just get angry and remind him how my job as an ER nurse is just as tough. In my head I am saying you selfish man and I am doing everything for you
What is your current care situation? Does he go to adult day care or are there aids that come in while you're not there?
You know he now has a cognitive disease that causes him to lose more and more of his prior self with each passing day. He can't help it. It would help the both of you if you educated yourself about the type of dementia he has so that you can use engagement strategies that will make daily life less stressful for the both of you. You should not be "reacting" to him as if he's his old self (much easier said than done!)
Teepa Snow is a dementia and care expect on YouTube. I've learned a lot from her videos. It is not easy to retrain yourself to deal with an LO in a new way. If he broke his leg and couldn't walk, you wouldn't be short tempered with his inability to get around. Your husband's brain in broken. I wish you much wisdom and peace in your heart on this journey.
Is he being left alone? You won't be able to leave him long term. His brain is dying little by little. Do you expect him to do certain things while your working? He probably doesn't remember. Your situation will not get better. Maybe, since u must work, you will need to place him. You will be considered a Community Spouse. Not sure how it works when one spouse is working. Medicaid allows for splitting of assets. His split going for his care. When its spent down Medicaid can be applied for at which time his SS and any pension will be required to offset his care. If needed, you will get partial or even all of it to live on.
He actually does get around quite well... he has always been full of himself, bragging all the time prior to his diagnosis. He has mild cognitive dementia
Unfortunately this is common when one spouse is much older than the other. The older is aging and requires caretaking while the younger one is still active. This isn’t going to get better. No point in arguing with him.
You are right... I usually don’t argue but sometimes it gets the better of me... a poor monetary decision prior to his having dementia put us in a bad situation in that I still have to work full time
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
What is your current care situation? Does he go to adult day care or are there aids that come in while you're not there?
You know he now has a cognitive disease that causes him to lose more and more of his prior self with each passing day. He can't help it. It would help the both of you if you educated yourself about the type of dementia he has so that you can use engagement strategies that will make daily life less stressful for the both of you. You should not be "reacting" to him as if he's his old self (much easier said than done!)
Teepa Snow is a dementia and care expect on YouTube. I've learned a lot from her videos. It is not easy to retrain yourself to deal with an LO in a new way. If he broke his leg and couldn't walk, you wouldn't be short tempered with his inability to get around. Your husband's brain in broken. I wish you much wisdom and peace in your heart on this journey.
one spouse is much older than the other. The older is aging and requires caretaking while the younger one is still active. This isn’t going to get better. No point in arguing with him.