My mom has a diagnosis of frontal lobe dementia. The family has witnessed this for years and at her last appointment her physician said it was stable. My dad passed away in March of this year. Her dementia has escalated terribly. She's inappropriate in public, unable to organize or maintain her home or yard. She hires people to help her, but her home is a wreck of papers, old mail, catalogs, etc. I am not her medical power of attorney, my sister is. How do we get her into an assisted living facility? Is there a way to force that issue? Her kitchen is a mess, she's not eating properly or taking her medication. Can I call someone or an organization that can come in and determine that she is incompetent to live alone? I am so stressed because in speaking with her she makes me think I'm the crazy one. HELP! I have no idea what to do.
At this point an AL may not take her unless they have a Memory care section.