I spoke about my husband before on this forum. His Alzheimer's diagnosis was in 2019. Things weren't too bad until recently but I have seen decline in the past year and a half. Lately he was always asking about his mother. I did make up stories to ease his mind. Now the evenings into wee hours of the morning are getting worse. Last night he talked about her all night and wanted to know why she moved but didn't let him know. Plus worrying about how he has no money and can't help me pay the bills. I've been reassuring him all along not to worry and that I have been taking care of everything. He just is not mentally there anymore. Today was the first day I helped him take a bath, because he almost fell in the shower the other day. I ordered a shower seat for him. I am pretty sure he is in stage6 of dementia even though he is not bedridden or incontinent. He is 79 and I am 68. I am so exhausted from lack of sleep and caring for myself. Would love some input on this subject and thank you.
The point here is: call his doctor, PCP, Neurologist or who ever.
So speak to the doc. Make an appointment. Tell the doc about the extreme agitation and upset that is really keeping his poor mind in a state of torment and the home in chaos. Tell him that if you cannot find some medication that could work you may not be able to go on. There ARE medications that can bring some peace in many cases. Time to try them!
I wish you the best and hope you'll update.
does pay for hospice. I have to call his
neurologist. Thank you.
I would say we got maybe 80% improvement. It has been so long ago (Mom had alzheimers for close to 20 years) we may have staggered the two pills. We may have also given 1 ea 200 mg magnesium glycinate at 2:00 and 1ea 200 mg of magnesium glycinate at 6:00 pm. Timing is something that you may have to experiment with. I believe there was a period when we
gave her both pills 2 each of 200 mg magnesium glycinate at 4:00 pm. Like I said, I'd experiment on the timing.
With the magnesium glycinate we got:
--about 80% improvement with sundowning
--she slept through the night
--it helped with regularity (make sure to use the glycinate version to prevent loose stools)
--she wasn't all drugged out
--it lessened anxiety, I'd say we got around 80% improvement
We had Mom on the magnesium glycinate for many, many, many years and specifically started it for the sundowning.
The first thing I did was stop the MiraLax. Within 2 months, 80% of the sundowning had stopped. (This was 2020.)
I replaced the MiraLax with Milk of Magnesia and it's been a lifesaver. I give it to her when she hasn't pooped in a couple of days and it never fails.
Because she no longer swallows pills or capsules easily, I use a liquid magnesium spray called "Calm" which I apply to her lower back and her lower legs.
For those rare nights she is still unable to get quiet, I'll give her a melatonin gummy.
I also have Ativan which I hardly ever use - and then only a squirt in her mouth - because it wrecks her mobility.
Your husband will most likely go through a period of rejection or adjustment before he acclimates to a new person in the house. You can tell him the helper is there for you.
Care.com or browser search for ""caregiving agencies near me"
Get a caregiver/aide to come in a couple days a week to help, so you can take a break. You need self care.
Medications may help him to calm down and sleep at nights.
I had to move out of the bedroom I shared with my husband, and started sleeping in the spare bedroom a couple years ago. He would keep me up at night and I find that he yells for my help when he sees me, but if I am out of sight, he is quiet and calm (well, sometimes).
In my case, my husband does not have a deteriorating condition, but suffered vascular dementia as a result of a massive stroke 9 years ago, so he has actually shown progressively increased cognition over the years - although to a very small degree. And is otherwise a healthy 63 year old. So I'm not dealing with a decline.
It is so sad to watch your loved one go through this. I wish you well.