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How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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What are some of the ways your relationship has changed since parent/in-law moved in? How did you address the added stresses and pressures so you were both happy and not resentful?
I’m no longer a caregiver. My parents are dead. When I was a caregiver it definitely affected my relationship with my husband. I was fortunate that he supported me through my caregiver days but we definitely experienced stress along the way.
Do you have any outside help? It’s necessary to take breaks and have some time away from caregiving.
I don’t think anyone is happy about being a caregiver. It doesn’t matter how much we love our parents, it’s still hard to be responsible for their care.
Does your family member have funds to pay for an assisted living facility? If so, go and tour places in your area.
If you are asking this question I do hope this woman has funds to eventually be placed in a facility . This will only get worse due to her dementia .
The geriatrician I used for my mother told me that more often than not it becomes too difficult for family to care for a parent with dementia . As the parent regresses they often see you as a child again and resent being told what to do . Or in other cases it’s just the day to day caregiving , wandering at night , incontinence , watching them decline , falls , etc , feeling trapped in the house that is too much for family .
In the meantime hopefully this woman has money to have some help coming in to give you a break .
From the OP's profile: "I am 41 years old and am currently helping my s.o. of 7 years care for his mother. She had dementia before her heart attack on Easter but it's gotten worse. She got out of nursing home 5 days ago and constantly asks to go home."
Has she been seen by a geriatric psychiatrist for meds for agitation?
Are you still able to work?
Caregiving only works if it works for both the caregiver and the dependent.
Personally, my answer is that no parent is living with us -- or ever will. We are both still working, have local kids and grandkids and are very engaged at our church as elders. We work hard to make sure that our seniors (3 of them for which we are PoA) are in the best care situations as possible. "As possible"... without them literally living with us. Sometimes living with an adult child is not the best situation because it is a sterile environment and it puts too much pressure on that family and marriage. It's suffocating, and resentment builds. There are other options. Your spouse needs to be willing to consider them before the marriage is ruined, along with your mental and physical health and maybe even finances.
I’m blessed by having a supportive and caring husband. Another huge blessing was my dad’s rule of his own making—none of his adult children could live with him and he would not live with any of us. He remained firm on this, said he’d seen it ruin too many relationships. I’ll always be grateful for my husband and the wisdom of my father
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Do you have any outside help? It’s necessary to take breaks and have some time away from caregiving.
I don’t think anyone is happy about being a caregiver. It doesn’t matter how much we love our parents, it’s still hard to be responsible for their care.
Does your family member have funds to pay for an assisted living facility? If so, go and tour places in your area.
Wishing you peace.
If you are asking this question I do hope this woman has funds to eventually be placed in a facility . This will only get worse due to her dementia .
The geriatrician I used for my mother told me that more often than not it becomes too difficult for family to care for a parent with dementia . As the parent regresses they often see you as a child again and resent being told what to do .
Or in other cases it’s just the day to day caregiving , wandering at night , incontinence , watching them decline , falls , etc , feeling trapped in the house that is too much for family .
In the meantime hopefully this woman has money to have some help coming in to give you a break .
"I am 41 years old and am currently helping my s.o. of 7 years care for his mother. She had dementia before her heart attack on Easter but it's gotten worse. She got out of nursing home 5 days ago and constantly asks to go home."
Has she been seen by a geriatric psychiatrist for meds for agitation?
Are you still able to work?
Caregiving only works if it works for both the caregiver and the dependent.
Is this situation working for you?