My mom is 90, had a stroke earlier this year, has vascular dementia. I have a grandson, 15 mos old, two hard working parents. A friend recently said to me, my mother reslizes that all the time she spent trying to take care of her elderly parents by herself, robbed time from her being with her young grandchildren. Find balance, is the answer. Not trying to tell anyone how to live their lives, but I realized that if I time shifted a bit, I could spend breakfast with my grandson nearly every am!