I care for my father-in-law. This man means the world to me and when he became ill I did not hesitate for one second and knew that I would stay home and care for him. Sadly, he has a daughter who visits every 2-3 months and a son who checks in more frequently... 2-3 times a week but doesn't stay longer than 10 min. The rest is up to my husband and myself mainly since I quit my job to care for him full time. My struggle is how do I address the fact that he is telling me what his "will" is. I know that there is one written and his daughter has it but its been written many years ago and its outdated. The man really doesn't have much, a small life insurance policies and some cash from a savings acct which he chose to keep it at home and monies from another savings acct which his daughter closed and placed in a CD acct. As you can all imagine they are going to be ready and available very quick when we speak money terms, right? I'd really appreciate your insite.
Naheaton nailed it. ... If he doesn't put it down in black and white it never happened; and forget about discussing what his "will" is. In the overly-litigious American society of today, what you say isn't as important as what you can prove. Good luck.
-- ED