If you would say " It's not your problem"!! I might say "Yes and No." I'm a private caregiver and work independently for many years. My concern is a 95 years old lady lives by herself at cross street from my home at this moment. I just found out about her from her neighbor that she did move in to AL for a month ago, then she did check herself out and came home. I only seen her a couple of time in last week since she is at home. Her next door neighbor knew I have been doing caregiver business so she was start talking to me about her 95's friend(Eva)....Same day at late evening I saw her sliding door was wide open, she came by the door and let me inside. She was little confused but when I asked her daughter's phone # She gave to me without looking from phone book!! I never met Eva's family, but I called her daughter . She was so frustrate about her Mom!! But Eva needs some ADL.... What shall I do? If her family will not step up I will call APS.???
Meanwhile, based on how things look to you, you can set yourself a mental deadline: if nothing has changed for the better by such-and-such a day/time, you're calling whether the family likes it or not.
You're a good neighbour. The old lady is lucky to have your concern.
When you see how Eva is really doing you should call her daughter again and see how she would like you to help. Don't rush to call APS in unless you find conditions that can not be ignored. Age alone is not a bar from living alone and maybe she found life in an institution to be too organized.
I never had have a questions of anyone moving out or passing, because it is our nature of living our senior park of over 260 homes.
Back to someone's question of Eva's home, it is pretty much organised, according to her daughter said "Mom has a house keeper for once a week and does laundry. I asked Eva when she took the bath or shower, she couldn't remember.... Her refrigerator has a lot of tv dinner, ensures, boosts, drinking waters, but milk was bad..
I will find out more about Eva tomorrow from her daughter if she wants talk to me again. Maybe/Hope her family is there... Last night I talked my friend(80), he doesn't wants involved...only he said very quite night....
It sounds to me like no one has POA and somehow they managed to get her into assisted living but because there is no one making choices for her, she was allowed to check herself out and return home. Her daughter is probably frustrated beyond belief with her Mom and may just throw her hands up in the air and walk away.
Thank you for being observant and very kind and caring to this woman.