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She lives alone and it is difficult to talk her down over the phone when she is anxiously headed into a panic attack. I used to visit her to reduce attacks. I need ideas that work over the phone.
Panic attacks are caused by severe nutritional deficiencies; especially B12, magnesium, and potassium. Many meds especially statins cause these deficiencies. I have experienced that severe B12 deficiencys are very common in the elderly. When panic attacks occur, a sublingual B12 will give immediate temporary relief. However, for permanent relief,it ie necessary to use a sublingual B12 every morning plus an increase of whole eggs and whoe milk in the daily diet.
You can still visit. You need to take precautions though. You can visit outside. Walk to a park, walk around the block. If you go inside wear a mask, use hand sanitizer, maintain at least 6 foot distance. (personally I would bring a pair of slipper socks and leave my shoes outside and put on slipper socks) Before you meet up with her ask yourself the typical questions and ask her as well. If she can take her temperature have her do so before your visit. And you check yours as well. She might feel better if you can even arrange a 1 day a week in person visit and the other times would be phone. Has she talked to her doctor about the anxiety? If not she might want to, there are so many medications that could help her.
I’ll never forget reading a Martha Beck article in an old Oprah magazine. She said to sit through it, don’t run from it, and it will pass. That really helped me. She said more but that’s what really helped me. I think it was a bit of distraction, waiting for it to pass. And It always did. At the time I had a very stressful job and it would hit me at night when I would try to go to sleep. I would get up and roam all over my house. Sitting one place and then the next. After reading that one article I would sit and wait for it to pass and it did. My anxiety was very specific. When that job was over, the anxiety left. So I’m not sure how helpful this would be to your friend. You might try googling Martha Beck and read some of her articles on anxiety and see if you read anything that might help. You are a good friend.
Some elders are eating very poor diets. Sugar and caffeine overload could also be a factor. She might try focusing on her diet instead of just saying "I'm old and can eat what I want." That being said, my mother-in-law says exactly that and she is a borderline diabetic. Mood swings and sugar are a bad combination. https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/how-sugar-harms-mental-health#withdrawal
Panic attacks really last about 20 minutes. The rest is the working up to and coming down from (former counselor here) the attack.
Just be there on the phone with her. Coach her with slow breathing, holding at the top of the breath for a few seconds and and the same at the bottom of the breath, again and again until it is over.
Tell her that it will be ok, and it will. Read up on panic attacks, so, afterwards, you can share the information with her (not directly after after the attack, but in a day, or so). Information is power; learned helplessness is not.
My brother-in-law had panic attacks when he had to take bone marrow samples (doctor). I asked him what he did. He said that he went in a back room, had the attack and then came back out when he was done, so he could see his patient. Almost his whole family had panic attacks, as the mother did.
Your mom will think that she is dying, but she will not. I had one one panic attack one time and I knew I was dying, but, of course, I didn’t. 😊 Never had another.
Often panic attacks run in families, often environmental, more than genetic.
If you can get her to a Psychologist who can practice Cognitive Therapy, that would help. A Cognitive Psychiatrist might assist, but in my opinion, they turn to prescribed drugs too much (just my opinion). My husband chose a Cognitive Psychiatrist and in about 6 months he got over the attacks. No drugs.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You need to take precautions though.
You can visit outside. Walk to a park, walk around the block.
If you go inside wear a mask, use hand sanitizer, maintain at least 6 foot distance. (personally I would bring a pair of slipper socks and leave my shoes outside and put on slipper socks)
Before you meet up with her ask yourself the typical questions and ask her as well. If she can take her temperature have her do so before your visit. And you check yours as well.
She might feel better if you can even arrange a 1 day a week in person visit and the other times would be phone.
Has she talked to her doctor about the anxiety? If not she might want to, there are so many medications that could help her.
At the time I had a very stressful job and it would hit me at night when I would try to go to sleep. I would get up and roam all over my house. Sitting one place and then the next. After reading that one article I would sit and wait for it to pass and it did. My anxiety was very specific. When that job was over, the anxiety left. So I’m not sure how helpful this would be to your friend.
You might try googling Martha Beck and read some of her articles on anxiety and see if you read anything that might help.
You are a good friend.
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/how-sugar-harms-mental-health#withdrawal
Just be there on the phone with her. Coach her with slow breathing, holding at the top of the breath for a few seconds and and the same at the bottom of the breath, again and again until it is over.
Tell her that it will be ok, and it will. Read up on panic attacks, so, afterwards, you can share the information with her (not directly after after the attack, but in a day, or so). Information is power; learned helplessness is not.
My brother-in-law had panic attacks when he had to take bone marrow samples (doctor). I asked him what he did. He said that he went in a back room, had the attack and then came back out when he was done, so he could see his patient. Almost his whole family had panic attacks, as the mother did.
Your mom will think that she is dying, but she will not. I had one one panic attack one time and I knew I was dying, but, of course, I didn’t. 😊 Never had another.
Often panic attacks run in families, often environmental, more than genetic.
If you can get her to a Psychologist who can practice Cognitive Therapy, that would help. A Cognitive Psychiatrist might assist, but in my opinion, they turn to prescribed drugs too much (just my opinion). My husband chose a Cognitive Psychiatrist and in about 6 months he got over the attacks. No drugs.
I wish you and yours the best.