Okay, so I received a call requesting 5 year bank statements for my father at his nursing home. I just got my father a few months he can’t speak or coherent so I honestly have no way of getting that information. Since he’s been with me he doesn’t have a bank account. He gets a $200 monthly pension. Pending social security and Medicare. Can the nursing home or Medicaid disqualify him for long term care because I don’t have that information or because he don’t have a bank?
The idea isn't to wisk people away from their family and friends, it is to ensure that someone is getting the care they need.
If you say that you still care and want to visit they aren't going to say no, you just don't have any say about where he goes and what care he receives. Which is what you are trying to get out from under.
This will get sorted out, remain calm and continue to say he is not safe to come to your home.
I can't imagine how they expect a virtual stranger to get this information. I would have been in the same situation with my dad. I had no clue about his life and his exwife would have lied just to screw things up for him.
Breathe! Hugs! You can do this!
As a ward of the state, your father would have the same right to contact with his family and friends as any other citizen, and his state-appointed guardian would have a duty to facilitate it. So don't let that worry put you off, is all I mean.
Or, if you can find out where the bank is, give the NH the info and let them request the info. They may have more clout.