With my hydrating her, she can go for 2 hours and a bit longer before the pull up is wet again. She feels it coming out but can not verbalize it and mostly never does unless she is standing. She will motion her hands toward her pelvic area...we wobble to the bathroom and 90% of the time she has already gone. But how can I go for longer stretches and NOT Risk getting a restaurant chair wet or the seat at the theater if sometimes our planning flopped and we could not get a bathroom break in prior to the activity? I Have diaper doublers and inserts but it seems pull ups still leak. I use Tena. Is there a better brand? My fear is a BM and that fear keeps us home and possibly missing an event.
Due to frequent bowel accidents, I always take an emergency bag with all the essentials. It is an unfortunate reality that there is always risk involved on every outing -- to minimize the consequences of the risk you can be fully prepared, but eventually even being fully prepared comes in second to reducing the number and duration of outings. Now our outings are pretty much limited to medical appointments -- attending family events are a thing of the past, which is okay because the family he mostly remembers is his mom and dad who are long gone.
If she has difficulty going 'on demand' as it were, her urologist can discuss ways to manually stimulate voiding her bladder by teaching her how to massage her abdomen.
With peeing. I change the pads after just one pee, but maybe i don't have to. I lift the pull up higher so it is more snug around the leg and so far that has helped with some ghost pees.
Now, when we go out on very rare occasions I literally carry a diaper bag. We don’t go to moves, restaurants or bars any more. I never know how what he eats will react. Any seasonings or spices on his food can have disastrous consequences. It’s a very sad but true fact of life now.
If Mom longs to go to a restaurant, bring Chux pads along. There are also waterproof briefs I’ve seen on Amazon that go over the incontinence brief.