I'm thinking of bringing my mother to live with my family within the next month. She is currently in assisted living, but is alone most of the time, other than eating her meals in the dining room. This will be HUGE for me -- I have always been free to come and go as I please. Even though she is by herself now for hours at a time, I will be responsible for her 24/7. I am the only child in town. My husband is open for having her move here, but does not want to become a babysitter. I will look into adult day care nearby. Am I making the wrong decision to want to care for her at home?
God bless you .
You have to make sure you can come and go has you need to. You must have help. And enough money to surpport you and your mom.If we run out of milk it might be days before I can go get some. Just think about all this before you do it. You have to have other people who are free to help you out. Good luck.
I've been a caregiver for about 8 years now and love taking care of mom. I may on the lucky side where she is still able to get around and do things on her own, to a point.
This decision will affect everyone to be sure to talk it though and be sure of what you want to to do. Good luck
She passed away on September 11th, 2009.
God bless you!
Her body is still here, dementia has taken over, yet I told myself that I wanted to take care of her until the very end.
Our inner thoughts are never let out, instead we say, I love taking care of Mom/Dad, listening to them complain, cry, begging them to take meds, eat and cleaning up pee and poop.
Well, I guess I will be the first to say, NO, I don't enjoy it, I'd love to run away.
A stranger moved into my Moms body and I don't like her, I don't understand how anyone can say they love taking care of a situation like that.
What a blessing it would be if they would just pass in their sleep.
Oh yes, I know--what a heartless person, but like I said, I've already lost my Mom, I only have this stranger and I'm sure this thought has crossed others minds.
Your house with your husband/wife and your children. You are not to let them suffer in anyway that you can help them. The same goes for your father and your mother, sisters and brothers. Your are respondisble for there well being. Helping them if they need food, clothing and if one is sick you are to help take care of them. Parents are to be taken care of in their old age. The bible is very clear on this and notes that the responsibility falls on the children.
Instructing your children at an early age will be the way they treat you when they become an adult. Children are to honor their parents - this will give them a long life on earth. Honoring your parent does not stop after you become an adult. This is for life. Your children will pick up on how you treat your parents and that is how they will treat you.
well i felt alot better now i can sleep without waking up every 2 hrs , i feel at peace now . but this coming weds he will be coming back home here with me . in a way i am looking fwrd to have him back home but then again im not . cuz i am not ready to wake up every 2 hrs to take care of him . hopefully he'll sleep allnight which i doubt that , i want him home but then again i dont . i feel bad for feeling that way . he is my father i love him dearly . i know he wont be around forever . i go visit him 2 times a day and stay for few hrs theni would leave thinking i can sleep all night .
it is a very big step by taking your parent into ur home . its rough at first then it gets easier . i hardly go anywhere and when i do my daughter watches him for me . bless her heart .
i worry about him in rehab cuz i know he gets better treatment at home than he would there . low on staff and too many elders there .
i;ll do it again and again but i tell you it is peaceful when he is not here . its alot of work when he is here . its sad too to watch him becoming like a child like . like i said he wont be around forever and i get to spend every mins with him so i know its all worth it . washer machine is all the time running hahahaha .... poo and pee all the time . ahhhhhhh
I have 6 siblings, 4 of who live close by. I get her up 7 days a week, dress, feed, and keep a close eye on her. She does not comprehend that she can no longer walk around like she used to. Now I have to sit with her constantly in case she gets up and falls. I had to put her in daycare 3 days a week, and have a friend come watch her 3 afternoons while I make dinner. She also gets her to bed for me. Weekends are a total wash, because siblings are always busy having a life! I guess I don't get one any more! It's a known fact that the elderly do much better at home, but you need to realize that even going to the bathroom is sometimes impossible.Please make sure you have people to help you. You will need down time. Believe me! It's very hard and could go on for years, so be prepared. It will cause a strain on marriages and family members.
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