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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Count her blessings that she's safe and protected, and so you are also protected from burnout. Please consult with a Medicaid Planner for her state so that if her funds run out you know what her options are to keep her safe in a good facility. Most states have a 5-year financial look-back on the application.
I think the word "placed" sounds better than "put". I started out with the word put when I placed Mom but it just didn't feel right. I don't know why.
Please, no guilt. You did what you needed to do. You have to work and her care became too much. She will learn to except where she is as home. And the home she is talking about could be her childhood home. I have pushed any guilt I have had to the back of my brain. I was always there for my parents. Always there for my girls. One I have taken care of her boys. There for my DH. My Mom was in a nice AL and later LTC. The staff loved her so she was well taken care of.
You did what was best for not only her but you as well. She will adjust. It's only been a few weeks. I'm sure you were told by staff to stay away for at least 2 weeks, and I hope you're abiding by that, otherwise it makes things even harder for your mom and the staff. Your mom needs time to adjust to her new surroundings and the staff, so please allow her that time. And rest in the knowledge that she is now receiving the 24/7 care that she needs and that she will be safe.
Don't lie, you'll only be holding on to guilty feelings. Just tell her that you can't care for her as well as they can. You know she's going to be upset no matter what you do. Tell her that you did it out of love for her and she will have to sort it out for herself. Tell her you went through a lot of trouble to get this care for her and I bet you did! You know that honesty is the best policy and you can't go wrong. You don't need the guilt because you have lots more to deal with. Please get everything in order, POA and health care directive! I was almost forced into filing for guardianship of my mother! Elder law wanted $2,500 retainer and $300+ per hour. I've already had health directives/ shared bank account but her self made Will was only good after she passes. I couldn't get any Jurat notary public to come in because they don't want to be responsible for any memory care residents! I just learned that Jurat notary public is someone who comes in and asks the person to swear that they know what they are doing/signing. You can see why they wouldn't come. I forced them with my health care directive that I had the right to do this because it meant that she would have to take a loan out on her house and I had the right to do what it took to keep her care going. It was'nt my health care agent status,it was they were going to lose a sale. Everything gets complicated when memory care comes up. Yes,I avoided having to go to court and spending lots! Please get everything together ASAP! You know you're in this because you care, you can't do anything if you let it get to you. I'm hating reliving this but maybe I can help you? Mom's in memory care/ hospice and she's very scattered brain and bed ridden. You have to separate your self from people who think they know and focus on you! You have lots of work to do and you don't need to be criticized! You went this far,long journey ahead. Good journey! Peace for you and your Mom!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Please, no guilt. You did what you needed to do. You have to work and her care became too much. She will learn to except where she is as home. And the home she is talking about could be her childhood home. I have pushed any guilt I have had to the back of my brain. I was always there for my parents. Always there for my girls. One I have taken care of her boys. There for my DH. My Mom was in a nice AL and later LTC. The staff loved her so she was well taken care of.
I'm sure you were told by staff to stay away for at least 2 weeks, and I hope you're abiding by that, otherwise it makes things even harder for your mom and the staff.
Your mom needs time to adjust to her new surroundings and the staff, so please allow her that time. And rest in the knowledge that she is now receiving the 24/7 care that she needs and that she will be safe.
In time your mother will acclimate to her new surroundings. Be at peace now.