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I'm going through it with a family member. He has been diagnosed with dementia. My family member that I provide care for is 88, and I NEVER receive a kind word. I have decided it is time for someone else to provide his care. I am looking at assisted living, and memory care facilities. It may be time for you to look at available options. Good Luck
FrustratedWI, I see from your profile that your Dad is living in Independent Living, or did you mean he was still living in his house? If he is still under his own roof, are you also under the same roof?
Usually what happens is the adult/child dynamic, where once again Dad is the adult, and once again you are the child, even if you are a senior yourself. I had that issue with my parents. They were still viewing me as a 30 year old who had unlimited energy and who could do anything. NOT!! I was in my mid 60's.
I even tried showing my parents my Medicare card, and my AARP membership card. It didn't phase them.
Honestly, I couldn't find anything short of breaking my arm to give me some quiet time. When my parents saw the sling, they didn't ask for me to do anything. When the doctor told me it was time to stop using the sling, I explain my situation regarding my parents, and he was ok with me wearing the sling only when I visited them :P
Maybe we can hook him up with my mother, the boss Queen, she is a young chick, she is only 94! They can try to boss each other around. Maybe they will exhaust each other out and leave us alone!
Its going to be hard to break the pattern. Its going to be hard to set boundries now. I am going too assume that u are at least 65, a Senior too. My Mom once said about my Dad, who she waited on hand and foot "they don't tell you when they are old and you are too, you don't feel like putting up with their "s _ _ t" My parents were in their late 70s.
I am assuming that ur in ur 60s maybe 70s. TG he is not living with you. Its time to show the "Senior Card". Tell him "Dad do you realize I am 70 yrs old, like u I am a Senior. And as a Senior your demands are exhausting. I can't keep up with them anymore. We need to compromise here. I am just not able to give u 24 hrs a day 7 days a week. I need time to myself." Or something to that effect.
Is he calling you all the time? Tell him it has to stop. Once a day is enough. And, unless an emergency, things get done in ur time. And don't feel u have to visit all the time.
Independent living puts all the responsibility on the care giver, I guess that's you. Assisted living allows you to NOT be the primary care giver. If you can find the right facility, the aides there provide the care, giving you the time to care for yourself. I don't know what your financial situation is, but it may still be worth your time and to save your sanity.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Usually what happens is the adult/child dynamic, where once again Dad is the adult, and once again you are the child, even if you are a senior yourself. I had that issue with my parents. They were still viewing me as a 30 year old who had unlimited energy and who could do anything. NOT!! I was in my mid 60's.
I even tried showing my parents my Medicare card, and my AARP membership card. It didn't phase them.
Honestly, I couldn't find anything short of breaking my arm to give me some quiet time. When my parents saw the sling, they didn't ask for me to do anything. When the doctor told me it was time to stop using the sling, I explain my situation regarding my parents, and he was ok with me wearing the sling only when I visited them :P
I am assuming that ur in ur 60s maybe 70s. TG he is not living with you. Its time to show the "Senior Card". Tell him "Dad do you realize I am 70 yrs old, like u I am a Senior. And as a Senior your demands are exhausting. I can't keep up with them anymore. We need to compromise here. I am just not able to give u 24 hrs a day 7 days a week. I need time to myself." Or something to that effect.
Is he calling you all the time? Tell him it has to stop. Once a day is enough. And, unless an emergency, things get done in ur time. And don't feel u have to visit all the time.
Assisted living allows you to NOT be the primary care giver. If you can find the right facility, the aides there provide the care, giving you the time to care for yourself. I don't know what your financial situation is, but it may still be worth your time and to save your sanity.