My mom has dementia and now lives with me, I have no help from my two siblings(they always have an excuse, or just dont respond when I call), and my 2 adult children has jobs and families of their own. I have been off work due to the fact my mom had lots of dr appts, and also I fcant leave her here alone for over 8 hours! My pay check was short and I had to use some of her money to pay my bills and get us food , whick now I dont have enough to start her in the adult day care(5 days a week,@ $1,600 a month!) let alone hire an aide to sit with her, what happens to me if I lose my job? I do have fmla but that does not help the money problem. Someone please give me some advice, I cry every night and worry all during the day!
If they don't help the situation then I sure as heck wouldn't talk with them over the phone about it, they seem to think by doing a obligation call makes them feel they are contributing. Just because you are the caregiver doesn't mean everybody can use you, abuse you, and then come to Thanksgiving dinner and expect a free meal.
The Salvation Army has a FREE ADULT DAY CARE. Please see if there is one in your area. I think they only want a little money to cover the drivers I believe and for food. At least that is how the one in my area is...but my mom refused...c'est la vie.
Amen to that!
LME:
You too, baby. At least you kept it real and presented Denise with another option should everything else fail.
TO THE FAMILY:
Sorry I haven't been around much. Have all the MICA (mentally ill, chemically addicted) residents (60 of them!) on my caseload now. ... If you're planning on becoming a counselor, make sure you are in counseling. Anyway, have to go. My own psychiatrist awaits. After me, he'll probably have to see his own.