I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Yes she did need new hearing aids, but I had a suspicion that much of her, not hearing what I say was more about dementia, and what I say is just not getting into her brain. Like there is a disconnection going on.
Well new hearing aids, and I honestly don't see a bit of change .
When I came on , I had everyone in my inner circle telling me to " suck it up" , "do what you have to do" "she is your mom"
Then you come here and your pretty much love bombed 🤯, it can be a lot!
Of course I understand it - lives are just too full. But some of the questions asked and the answers given are so darn interesting I really want to know what course people take and how things turned out.
Glad you are better, Nacy.
Way - how are you?
I do my best to never run out of chocolate. Worst comes to worse, you can always make a few with cocoa powder and coconut oil and whatever else you want to add.
We called hotdogs “snouts”.
I know it’s not a whine but does anyone else have a good one?
Im more I suppose spiritual, I suppose, I believe in the power of believing and the power of positive thinking.
Years ago maybe 7 or 8 years ago, the Pope came to USA , and I was caregiving a priest. So we watched it and he said something that really struck me and stayed with me forever.
He said pray for me, and for those non believers, send me hope and good wishes. So even though I do not pray to a God in the traditional sense , I do send good wishes and my type of prayers. Which really in a sence is what you do every day here.
You send all your good wishes to people, because you love and care for people. Which in my book is your way of praying for people.
But in the sence that , this one football star won the Superbowl because he prayed , is a bit silly to me, as I suspect it is to you also.
I am not capable of pretending I believe in something I do not believe in. It is to me like just saying I can believe that dogs can fly if I want to. I could PRETEND I believed. But I don't believe. I never did for a single second of my life. That is why I teasingly say I have no gene for it. I have read the bible and other books of faith and I love cathedrals, hymns, Saints and all of that. But I don't "believe" in them. For me it is kind of a Santa Claus thing.
So with all respect, if it were as simple as "choosing" to believe something I can't imagine why anyone wouldn't. I just don't, and can't pretend I do. It would be like my CHOOSING to believe I like escargot.
As to Neil, you believe God showed me something and I believe he fell into the lucky 10%. Makes no sense to me that God would choose to SHOW ME something, and let another woman's hubby die, because he chose NOT to show her something; I could never believe in such a being who would play at that kind of game. t-PA clot busters are very scientific. They don't "care". They work or they do not work. And time is of the essence.
So again, EVERYONE, whether you believe or do not, every single second is your brain dying after a stroke; you must get to a stroke center and as fast as you can. Call 911 at once. And believer or no, I hope you will be lucky, or blessed, or whatever.....as he was. We all will go. But this time he stayed.
Ending on a fun note, coming back from the hospital the first night his daughter B., said "Did Dad vote". And I said "Yes. By mail. Weeks ago" and her hubby, my SIL, C. said "Doesn't matter. If he dies they are gonna say "vote doesn't count; throw it out! He's a dead man". Reminded me of my favorite home town stories about Chicago, where dead men vote!
Still a bit shell shocky here. I will see him go off walking the dog and think "It could have been so different today (yeah! I could have been the one walking her). I have always wanted to be the first to exit; I hate to deal with change. My OCD kicked in supper bad, and I came home to line up little combs and pens and phones at right angles! Getting better day by day.
I love my leaf blower but the rain is falling faster than the Maple leaves so I can’t use it. On the bright side, the leaves are especially beautiful this year and watching them fall between the fir trees is magical.
Nacy: Feel better.
Both sides of the family, generally speaking, didn't have troubles with "organs",We don't get pneumonia, heart issues, kidney problems...My parents both developed vascular dementia from high blood pressure which I largely attribute to their very conflicted relationship - mother's BPD and father's alcoholism. But all their other organs were fine.
Mother at 103 in an ALF would get a fever, They would give her a little extra tylenol and 3 days later she was fine. They were impressed.
Even in the NH the resident doctor said all her vital stats are fine. She can last a long time. It amazed me that he didn't recognize that her brain was failing due to the vascular dementia, and that meant she couldn't last a long time, nor did she. If she hadn't had the vascular dementia she might still be alive.
Last time I went to the dr for a check up (about 1 1/2 years ago) everything was fine! Of course one day it likely won't be, unless God just takes me home, but that's ok.
Alva, you've talked about not having the gene for belief, It's not a matter of genetics or anything else other than choice. Either we choose to believe and have faith grow or we choose not to. I make that choice many times a day and my faith grows stronger - like a muscle being exercised. It's really very simple - not easy, but simple. I believe God showed you His love and power by healing Neil. I'm very grateful He has given both of you another chance.
way - hope you are feeling better. So easy to catch bugs from the little ones.
Sorry about your stomach bug, nacy. Hope you get over it quickly.
Alva - that's great and I am sure is the answer. I have sniffles all the time but they are allergies.
I believe I got this at the dinner theatre. Lots of unmasked people there and the timing would be right. I thought about it but not sure how to manage a mask when you want to eat. The closest contact with the most people was when we were in the buffet area loading up our plates. A mask then probably would have helped.
I used to grocery shop near closing time as there were few people and that worked. One day I ran to the grocery store during the day time and suddenly found myself surrounded a bunch of little kids and thought "Oh, oh!". Sure enough I came down with what I think was RSV. Talk about coughing! That was a couple of years ago and the last time I had a bug.
Yesterday I got dressed, wrapped myself in a blanket, took my mug of coffee and sat outside for a while watching LIFE! I know the soil is full of it, the trees, even if dormant are alive. the cars of the road are driven by people with lives...It was therapeutic.
Tomorrow there will be workmen plodding in and out getting the condensate lines set up. Fortunately for us the work will be in the furnace room which is out on the balcony.
Actually felt like doing a little housework today so I must be getting better. 😊
I will say, I'm not a huge facemask wearer , but if you vote tomorrow I'd definitely wear one. Many people will be dragging themselves there sick.
Gonna be a good day to start Hallmark Christmas movies.
We never had pets until my daughter brought her ( then ) kitten home . She had come back home to live with us ( for 2 years ) after graduating college .
I had to talk hubby into letting our daughter bring a kitten home. Long story short , when our daughter and her cat moved out , we got our own kitten 6 weeks later . Both the cats are female . I’ve heard too many horror stories about male cats.
I’m allergic to dogs . Although I do dogsit my daughter’s fiancés dog ocassionally when needed . I bring my meds along .
DH and I had a stray dog for 4 days until he was reunited with his family. As adorable as he was, I just couldn’t handle all the attention. Every time I left the room he would jump up and follow me. I must have done alright by him though because when his family came to take him home he wanted to stay.
But Princess rules whenever she comes to visit since she used to live with us before I got my cat . She always remembers the house even if it’s been 6 months since she visited . ( My daughter took the princess with her when she moved out 4 years ago ).
Princess jumps out of her carrier and the cats boop noses and then princess hisses as she needs her alone time to check out her old home . She runs straight upstairs to my daughter’s old room for a while . Then she comes back downstairs to complete her tour , checking each room .
My cat always wants to play . Princess will play with her chasing each other at 4am. 🙄🙄