I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Sis did well on Seroquel Oct 2023 when she had delerium after back surgery after a fall .
Not all sedatives can be given with Lewy Body either.
Before Lewy was diagnosed , They tried Abilify April of 2023 for delerium from metabolic encephalopathy and sepsis . She almost died , but went to rehab and then back home . She could not tolerate the Abilify in rehab , she refused it . A lot of tremors and other symptoms . She did well in rehab and went home that time .
At this point she now believes there is nothing wrong with her and does not need any meds. She will refuse all sedatives . She still googles on her phone . She insists she can take care of herself . She is often agitated in this loop quest to go home . She will only take her regular meds for BP , thyroid , blood thinners etc . Only months ago she knew she had dementia and even said she knew she would need to go to a facility soon . The past 4-6 months significant progression .
Anesthesia from back and hip surgery ( falls ) have not helped .
She left rehab a month ago and is in a very nice board and care . The other day my nephew took her to the orthopedist for recheck for her fractured hip ( 3 months ago ). When they got back she refused to get out of the car . The owner had to coax her to go inside .
Nacy: Prayers for your DH.
I instantly knew what it was--It's a smidge of clear nail polish on what was surely a very small hole where any stitching would have accentuated the hole, but a drop of clear nail polish keeps the fibers from fraying. 🤓 I don't remember doing the repair, but I knew that's what it was. 😁
Anyone else ever used this trick for tiny holes? I learned it in high school because I wore pantyhose often (due to the dress code), and nail polish is, of course, a great way to stop a run. Just thought that was funny, and reminded me of the mending talk lately in this thread. It's neat to hear all the ways you all have learned to sew things, or saw your parents or grandparents do things.
I'm still not sick! 😁. Hubby definitely has some recovery to do now, much much better but it's gonna take him a bit longer than he thinks to be 100 percent. Coughed a lot during the night so he got up so I could sleep. But he slept for like 48 hours straight, so it was my turn last night.
Way I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope the drs find some meds that help her. There is not much more that can be done. I know it's hard to hear her anger and blame. Please look after yourself and don't get too weighed down by this. It is out of your hands. (((((((hugs)))))
Ali - I used to use nail polish on panty hose too. Don't think I have used it for anything else but it is a good idea.
Psue - I am with you!
nacy - she pretty well did her own thing anyway didn't she?
TB welcome. Glad you are getting your mom into a facility. Caregiving often falls in one person's shoulders.
Thanks for the clips idea. I found our small metal ones and they worked. Now, I can put them on much easier!
I think I finally got hubby to accept the fact that when he gets the sniffles, he has to test for the flu and covid, ASAP and get on anti viral meds. I'm going to have to keep reminding him, when he is healthy, so I don't get issues when he is sick and grumpy.
They sell flu and covid test kits now, more expensive but, what else is new
Yes, and I was confident that I would find an answer here. Safety pins didn't sound too good for socks, but clips did. I have a compression sock aid that helps me put them on. I fold them inside out over this half tube, press it down some, and then point my foot to place my foot in that hole. I pull up on the two sides of the aid, and when I remember to spray my legs or use baby powder, the socks slide right on.
So good to hear R is doing better!
Your phone call with the x wife is very very sweet. Look at Demi Moore and how she helps out with Bruce Willis.
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Psue - Sometimes life's a b****h and it sounds like that for you. Emergency stents sound scary. Hope your mom recovers quickly, and bro too. I know that's not in the books for dh. I am sorry his first visit did not go well, but doubt that indicates how well he will do when he is settled there. But for you that's too much. Ex wife or whoever can give you a shoulder to cry on - doesn't matter. Lean on who you need to, ((((((Hugs)))).
I am so sorry about your hubby. Hope he gets better as I recall you have cruise planned.
Psue,
I am going to quote Golden, life is a B***h.
Too much for you to take for sure.
Hope Mom and brother will be well.
Hubby will adjust eventually. Takes at least two weeks or so, but I know it is hard on you.
This is not good month or year for most!
Brother will be going home tomorrow with 2 shiny new stents in his arteries. Blood flow has been restored and he’s doing fine. No news yet as to whether there was much heart muscle damage. Time will tell.
DH has been mostly lucid all day although he did ask me how much I was getting paid to put him in AL. Hah; some joke.
Eva, wrong thread but how is your husband today - are they getting his pain under control? I’m sorry this is going to be such a difficult holiday season for you two.
Nacy, I hope your guy is feeling well enough to enjoy Christmas Eve.
Golden, I’m so glad R made it through the awful headaches and I hope you both have a lovely Christmas.
Ali and Llama, sending blessings……
To all the whiners on this thread, I wish you peace and joy this holiday season, and on we all go, until we don’t.