My mother is 54 years old she moved to United States from a very hot country in 2017 April , she was a diabetic type 2 for about 10 years in 2018. Jan she got minor stroke in the first snow of her she couldn’t bear that cold and from this she developed skin conditions psoriasis worse like all in her body and from there every thing started. We took her to the hospital she also started bleeding from uterus which dr said she has fibroid that need to be removed. She went through DNC got weak somehow in one 3 weeks of hospital stay she got discharged and she is home but things weren’t too good. She was all swelled her hand and feet were she could use bathroom her self my father and I use to clean her and help using toilet, some how after 6 month of care my father specially gave her she started back walking with the walker and using toilet herself, but she was getting day by day weaker and Lost weight a lot. She was 260lbs and in 2019 she is 180 lbs which is ideal weight but not the healthiest weight, but she stop her bleeding that she used to have. Before DNC thing we thought that worked pretty well and in this duration my elder sister got married in 2019 April she was Getting depressed slowly as her daughter going to leave her we couldn’t figure out why is that , I used to take her to the appointments some time she goes sometimes she doesn’t want to , her primary doctor said she is anemic and she needs to take iron medicine that she take that is the reason she lost weight. In June 2019 I took her to the emergency Because one day she could got up from her back complaining of no energy , and they admitted she was anemic badly they gave her blood, she started swallowing they gave her fluids release medicine and steroids and so much iv with that they doing the need of DNC because fibroid was rebuilt they did so my mom this time a lot weaker hand feet swelling could walk or stand with out wheelchair and hoyer lift this time we because of job and father job we send her to rehabilitation, to get physical therapy and get better but that hope was only hope from there she was back and fourth hospital to rehab, rehab to hospital, because of temperature low some time blood pressure low / high she couldn’t get better and developed a huge bedsore on lower back now and got infections urinate infection because that huge wound she got two wound deprivemeant surgery sho got too much weak no strength her breathing is slow they were using bipap machine at night now they are suggesting colostomy so this way would heal my mom is no more a candidate for surgery and last time she was sent to hospital from nursing home Because of low temperature doctor decided hospice for her and said they can’t do much about her anymore. Hospice said she has few week left in hospice. She stop eating gradually before she was severe nausea now they said she has maybe two days or one. She stop urinating eating talking responding my beautiful mom is dying. I don’t know if we made wrong decision sending her to the rehab first time I am so guilty depressed, please excuse my English mistakes because I just learned it in 2 years.
I pray your family receives God's comfort during this very difficult time.
My deepest condolences to you. Try to rest now!
Heaven. Your family did what the doctors said was best. Sometimes it’s just not possible to recover from so much sickness. You should feel no guilt as guilt is for those that have done something wrong. Sending you hugs.
And I hope what brings you peace in that you followed doctors' recommendations. You sought what was best for your mother. *Make a pinching motion at your forehead with your fingers, draw your fingers away with the guilt from your mind and heart, and toss it away*
Be easy on you. Be good to you. *hug*
Praying for God’s peace that surpasses all understanding.