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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Let me start by saying I had a great relationship with my mother, I always counted her as a friend as well as a parent, when her health declined I decided that I was up for the challenge of becoming her caregiver. I had seen my grandmother care for my grandfather and thought I understood what I was getting into but nothing prepared me for just how physically dependent people can become, how long people can go on that way, and how the person I was caring for became someone else, someone I once described as "a giant suck-hole of need". As the years passed I started to lose my temper and I would be filled with regret. The time between my outbursts became shorter and shorter, when I got to a point where I would get up in the morning strong and determined and blow it by 10:00 a.m. I knew it was time to make a change because I was seriously doubting whether the woman who had been my best friend was just an illusion - I sent mom to a nursing home for respite and never brought her back out. The nursing home was far from perfect and although she was well cared for the decision and her life there broke my heart, but the destructive spiral we were caught up in wasn't fair to either one of us.
You realize that no one person can adequately provide all the care for a person with his needs. It’s no one’s fault, but for the health of you both it needs changing
Anger can be a message. Maybe it is saying we need to stick up for ourselves, maybe our boundaries have been crossed, or that our needs are not being met. Maybe that something needs to change.
The best part of anger is this energy can be used to motivate us towards that change.
I remember an acquaintance was angry at her husband's dementia behaviour. This prompted her to reach out for more respite - family helping & aides. She couldn't change him much, but could lighten her load.
From your profile I see that you're caring for your husband. I hope that you have some outside help coming in to assist you since you're still working part-time. Also I hope you're taking time away from your caregiving duties to do some fun things that you enjoy on a regular basis, as that will certainly help with your anger issues as it will help rejuvenate your soul, and give you strength for the journey. It's only human nature to get angry over things in which we cannot control, but please don't beat yourself up over it, as that serves no purpose at all. All of us that are or have been a caregiver will tell you(if we're honest)that we all have gotten angry at our loved one at one point or another. That's why taking care of yourself is so very important, as doing that will allow yourself more patience and understanding. And if all else fails, you can do what one of the seasoned caregivers from my local support group recommends, and that is to go out on your back porch or patio and let out a big scream. She said it worked wonders for her, and I myself had to do it a few times as well, and yes it does help. Which will bring me to my final point. Please "Google" to see if there are any local caregiver support groups in your area. I've belonged to one for over 3 years now, and they literally saved my life, as I was a wreck when I first started attending. Most are still meeting on Zoom right now, but as more things open up, they too will be meeting in person once again. I wish you the very best. Please take care of yourself.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I had seen my grandmother care for my grandfather and thought I understood what I was getting into but nothing prepared me for just how physically dependent people can become, how long people can go on that way, and how the person I was caring for became someone else, someone I once described as "a giant suck-hole of need". As the years passed I started to lose my temper and I would be filled with regret. The time between my outbursts became shorter and shorter, when I got to a point where I would get up in the morning strong and determined and blow it by 10:00 a.m. I knew it was time to make a change because I was seriously doubting whether the woman who had been my best friend was just an illusion - I sent mom to a nursing home for respite and never brought her back out. The nursing home was far from perfect and although she was well cared for the decision and her life there broke my heart, but the destructive spiral we were caught up in wasn't fair to either one of us.
The best part of anger is this energy can be used to motivate us towards that change.
I remember an acquaintance was angry at her husband's dementia behaviour. This prompted her to reach out for more respite - family helping & aides. She couldn't change him much, but could lighten her load.
It's only human nature to get angry over things in which we cannot control, but please don't beat yourself up over it, as that serves no purpose at all. All of us that are or have been a caregiver will tell you(if we're honest)that we all have gotten angry at our loved one at one point or another. That's why taking care of yourself is so very important, as doing that will allow yourself more patience and understanding.
And if all else fails, you can do what one of the seasoned caregivers from my local support group recommends, and that is to go out on your back porch or patio and let out a big scream. She said it worked wonders for her, and I myself had to do it a few times as well, and yes it does help.
Which will bring me to my final point. Please "Google" to see if there are any local caregiver support groups in your area. I've belonged to one for over 3 years now, and they literally saved my life, as I was a wreck when I first started attending. Most are still meeting on Zoom right now, but as more things open up, they too will be meeting in person once again. I wish you the very best. Please take care of yourself.