I just wanted to post this obituary from the NY Times of my amazing neighbor. I have often made reference to her here when folks say that their parent is "fiercely independent". This is what that independence actually looks like.
Marilyn did not demand that others do for her without compensation. She never complained about her fate in life. Rather, she went out and helped to change the face of the world.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2019/12/01/health/marilyn-saviola-dead.amp.html
One of Marilyn's friends told me that years ago, a minister had said in his eulogy the their friend, who had CP, had been released from a lifetime of pain and suffering. Marilyn interrupted and said "No, she was not in pain and lived a full and productive life". She was a pip!
Incredible! What an inspiration. She will be missed but remembered with love.
I think it would be so rewarding to know someone like this.