HI - My mother has difficulty standing easily; and has a care giver with her from 10:30 - 3:30 M-F; but evenings, and weekends, she is pretty much on her own. She gets up every two hours, throughout the night. She can do this today; but had difficulty two nights ago, and I am concerned about the decline, and needing help through the night. Her long term care insurance covers the assistance during the day, but it will be way over the top of her daily $$ limit if she needs it 24/7. I don't believe Assisted Living provides 24/7 with someone right there helping her to the rest room; helping her to stand, through the night. I don't know what someone does in this situation. If she can't stand at some point, too tired at night, she would still need to do that if she were in a mobility chair. She still needs to stand to move to a commode; even a bedside commode.
When she was in a nursing facility healing from a hip replacement, there with little to no support to her through out the night; she remained in bed, and used her diaper, and was humiliated. Repeatedly. She then was eventually able to get up on her own, into a wheel chair herself into the bathroom, and try to make it, and didn't, many a time -- and the staff left her there, until they were able to get to her. It was not their fault, but they had low staffing. There is no one-on-one of course through the night.
What is going to be available to her, if she cannot stand on her own at some point? It is not far away.
My Mom lost the ability to get to the bathroom on her own (even a bedside commode) and so we started having someone with her 24/7 (for the days - I took a leave from work and my brother does Saturdays, and we pay someone to be with her at night). This is very expensive ($22/hr) but I couldn't figure out what else to do to keep her safe. And she got a palliative diagnosis back in March, so she won't need her savings for very much longer.
My Mom wore a call button on a lanyard in AL, and there is a call button here in the palliative unit in the hospital, but she would never think to push it, she would never think she would require help, she would always (if we weren't there) just try to go on her own and would likely fall.
And like your Mom, mine would be up every 1-2 hrs at night.
Sending best wishes to you and to your Mom.
Each state is different, by NY offers a Nursing Home Transition and Diversion program under Community Medicaid that will provide for an overnight aide. (If you can find one!)
Maybe it's time to look into qualifying for Community Medicaid in your state? Most states find it cost efficient to help people stay out of the nursing home.
Great suggestions -- She has neuropathy, severely, and wants to swim, but it is very risky to go in and out of a pool; she does get PT twice a week; and she is fairly strong in her exercises -- I'd love for her to be able to swim... I will check into it. Thank you!
Does she have a bed assist rail or other device to help her get up?
She could use a bedside commode.
You could work toward reducing or eliminating the night time need to get up to pee either by tackling the root cause or by looking at medication that would help her sleep through without waking up (of course she would need to depend on an incontinence product)
I can't say enough about PT, there are some very simple exercises that would greatly improve her ability to stand and transfer.
She does't have a bed assist rail, and probably shoudl have one; so far she has refused it. but so far, she can eventually stand; but the time is coming she may not... and, she won't use a bedside commode either... She has had accupuncture for her bladder issue, and is on a bladder control medicine, and has Depends, but I am mainly worried about her mobility, at night, on her own - and how people handle the one-on-one requirement; and if she can't get out of bed on her own eventually, what happens? What would assisted living do? or even a nursing home? Thank you!
If she is not able to walk unassisted, I would not leave her alone for any period of time. It's very risky in case of fire.