My mom is at home, in a lovely home, with home care services and home health care services. She sees her primary doctor every 3 months. Someone is with her at all times. She is 92, has dementia, and is confined to a wheelchair but in good overall health.
This morning I got a call that someone called Adult Protective Services. I am meeting the rep this afternoon. I called both the home care and home health agencies, and they were both breezy and said no worries. I also have a call in to my elder attorney.
There is absolutely no basis for a report, and I can't imagine anyone who knows me thinking there could possibly be an issue. There are no vindictive neighbors or relatives. The only ones I can come up with are a helper from the home agency who recently left - a little crazy - and a former home health nurse from the agency - I requested a new nurse. The other option is someone via Facebook, but that seems like a stretch.
Any advice? Needless to say, I am upset.
I was investigated each time as that is the law, I knew each time who filed the complaint, and I was extremely transparent. That's what you do with DCF. They found nothing and in 24 hours case closed. But its a HUMILIATION and EMBARRASSMENT and even anxiety when they call, or worse show up at your front door with cops in tow. And there is not much you can do to get back at the person who reported you, though you can report the agency to the state, its a form you can get on the web and then the state can do their own investigation. Much paperwork for revenge-I have better things to do with my free time.
So...there you go, know that anyone you hire as a caregiver, anyone at any docs office, nurses on phones are liable to pull this stunt just to make your life hell, and because they are angry people in the wrong field of work. Just roll with it, be transparent with any investigation and in 24 hours it's over, case closed...life goes on.
Oh and I have to mention this. My mom was very angry about being put in a NH. (and to this day I regret it) One of her stunts was to go to the office ph-she was so sneaky, and call 1 800 Abuse and say she was being abused by them over and OVER and OVER again. They almost kicked her out. So, just saying, even an angry parent can do this, and then look very innocent to your face. They are like little kids at times. (I am laughing over this now as my mom was my bestie and I think it was cute and smart-as she always used THEIR office phones as they were not at their post where they should have been. At the time-NOT funny. Now..a fond memory. WTG mom!)