( He is doing fine at home, with caretakers. Never wonders, still remembers names, lock codes etc.) But siblings want to put him in a care center- against his will- under the guise of "caring" and " just in case" . I fear this will lliterally kill him- but they have their minds made up. I have only one week to convience them to leave him where he is at for the moment. ( Doctor has been of no assistance because he is passively involved with a brother who wants to move him...).
ALL ( yes 100 % of Dads friends beleive he should stay where he is for now.)
My siblings seem to be reactiving out of fear and other peoples hard stories, instead of looking at the fact that Dad is fine for now.. I cant seem to find a list of "whY" to keep him at home. Ive made up my list, but it would be helpful if I can find a professional list of why staying home is good for him. ( He has 24 hr care, so he is safe) Ive heard 70% of Alz. patients live at home, but I cant find an official statistic. Help ?
As naheaton said above, let them know that a "facility" isn't necessarily out of the question, but, for now, Dad is doing well where he is.
I still cannot fathom their reasons for wanting him in such a sterile environment. They all need to visit one of these places unannounced and imagine themselves there. Really!! what goes around comes around.
Hope this helps, and good luck with your decision and your siblings. Personally they sound like a group of vulchers who want your dad's house but what do I know.
This might be a helpful article from another site.
" When caring for someone with Alzheimer's at home, you are providing a chance for them to remain in a familiar, comfortable environment where they can use their strengths and be encouraged to be as independent as possible for as long as possible. A safe, comfortable home can help a person with Alzheimer's feel more relaxed and less overwhelmed. Focus on preventing accidents, wandering away from home, and emotional upset. "
http://www.alzheimersdisease.com/info/caregiver/caregiver-issues.jsp?usertrack.filter_applied=true&NovaId=4029461987528488723
BTW, who has the Medical POA? Who has the Durable POA?