Mother fell and broke her hip last summer and had to move to assisted living. She has not regained her ability to walk mostly due lack of motivation which she calls fear. Additionally she has urinary incontinence and sometimes fecal incontinence when straining.
Her baby brother (79) passed away Saturday. I am struggling to try to get her to the funeral in Colorado Springs. She requires assistance with almost everything and we do not have family or additional support. I am her primary caregiver and I work full time. I am already burnt out. I don’t think I can manage it. Any suggestions?
Have you looked into services like Visiting Angels? I use them for my 97 and 100 yr old aunties as a companion who they really like a lot and I've been very pleased with her. The people who work for VA are usually vetted and experienced. Maybe you can hire them for this single event. If your mom (or you) don't have the financial means for something like this then I don't really know what other options you have. My mom and aunts did not attend the funerals of 2 of their siblings. Don't feel bad or guilty if she doesn't get to go. Maybe have someone there video it or take pics to show her after. Maybe have people at the event record video greetings addressed directly to her saying how they missed her but understand. Not perfect solution but better than nothing.