I reached that point - then I had the courage to threaten the family doctor with legal action - and the rest is history - the doctor finally got mum admitted to hospital where she was found to be so bad they said she should have been in high care five years previous. The rest is history - I only wish I did it sooner before my own health got wrecked making my spine tumours become inoperable
I agree, senior citizens shouldn't be hands-on taking care of older senior citizens. I think many of us here will never reach the age of our parent(s).