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Why don't you want to deal with this, is it both urine or both. why is your husband incontinent? Is he able to do any of the changing himself? Is your marriage basically over and you can't bear to touch him? There is nothing wrong with not wanting him to come back home for whatever reason, so make other arrangements for his care. you wont do a very good job if you don't want to do it so he may be happier elsewhere.
I am a caregiver for several family and friends. I deal with this issue with hospitals all the time. From just a practical point of view, the hospital will try and get your husband out of there as quickly as possible. For years now, hospitals have been treating loved ones as nurses and doctors, fully expecting us to do things that we are not trained to do and/or we are uncomfortable doing. Make absolutely certain, by talking to your husband's doctor that it is even medically safe for him to leave the hospital. Then you can put your foot down firmly and ask for rehab if you don't think he is ready to go home and you can't care for his health. In the alternative, you can also ask for home health aides to come until he is able to be considered rehabbed. I am assuming of course, that the incontinence is temporary. If it is permanent, that is another conversation. You are your best advocate. Do not ever be afraid to tell medical people you can't or won't be responsible to do medical procedures that you can't do. Best of luck to you......always keeping caregivers in my prayers.
Whats important is that you take the time to step back and logically look at the situation. There were several times when I chose to keep piling on more work and responsibility because I let my heart and guilty feelings make the decisions, while at the same time my head was telling me (more like screaming) that my cup was already running over and it'd be too much for me to handle. As a result, I'm paying dearly for making those choices with my health.
Its a choice that you have to make with keeping the best interest of both of you in mind - your health and welfare right along with his. Take away the guilty feelings and it'll help clear the way to making the right decision.
My father did this for my mother. He was very devoted to her. However, we all told him many times, we would not be upset if he placed her in a memory care facility. What concerned us was we had already lost our mother, for all practical purposes. The stress and demands of her 24/7 care took a toll on him, and it meant he couldn't attend major family events. It is not wrong to question what you can and cannot do. It is healthy to question them.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting him to come back home for whatever reason, so make other arrangements for his care. you wont do a very good job if you don't want to do it so he may be happier elsewhere.
Make absolutely certain, by talking to your husband's doctor that it is even medically safe for him to leave the hospital. Then you can put your foot down firmly and ask for rehab if you don't think he is ready to go home and you can't care for his health. In the alternative, you can also ask for home health aides to come until he is able to be considered rehabbed. I am assuming of course, that the incontinence is temporary. If it is permanent, that is another conversation.
You are your best advocate. Do not ever be afraid to tell medical people you can't or won't be responsible to do medical procedures that you can't do. Best of luck to you......always keeping caregivers in my prayers.
Its a choice that you have to make with keeping the best interest of both of you in mind - your health and welfare right along with his. Take away the guilty feelings and it'll help clear the way to making the right decision.