She is sleeping 20 hours a day, drinking 2 Boosts and eating 1 Klondike per day. She is 5’7, 82lbs. (A year ago she was 100lbs.) Loss of interest in all we have loved to do. She is lucid sometimes when lying in bed. She is confused and disoriented when she sits up in bed. She is too weak to walk to the bathroom on her own, I push her (seated) in her walker. She can wash her hands and brush her teeth if seated. This has been a rapid decline since Christmas. She was on Eliquis for two leaky heart valves. I am interested in similar stories and how the end played out. She does not qualify to go into the hospice facility (yet).
She also had already lost a lot of weight in the last few months of her life. I think her heart could not take the decline and she transitioned quickly. I have realized reading the forum that every story is unique because of all these variables. It is impossible to know.
I am so sorry for your mom and wish you strength. Take each day as it comes and cherish the time you have, if you can.
As for the facility, you should be getting your five days on respite regardless.
I would not push nutritional drinks unless they are requested; they will prolong suffering.
I am surprised you can find in facility hospice which is now rarer than hen's teeth.
Please let all care now be aimed toward comfort. Wishing you the very best.
You can expect mom to sleep more than she is now. At some point, she will slip into a coma. She's not eating enough to sustain life.
Your job is to keep her out of pain and comfortable. Don't push her to do anything she doesn't want to do.
You sure she doesn't qualify for Hospice? My MIL wasn't as bad as your mom and she qualified with no issues. The aid and support of the Hospice company, (while not very good quality), was helpful to the kids as they navigated her EOL.
She was on a mild pain med and mostly on anti-anxiety drugs, b/c her anxiety was through the roof.