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THANKS for the response. My dad has been in for 5 months and I don't visit everyday the NC said it would better if I visit less to get him settled. He is on anxiety medicine but he is so strong headed he says nothing is wrong with him. My heart is broken but I stay strong for him. My father will also call and tell me he loves me and he wants to come home it's like I can't win but I keep trying is all I can do.
Many on this forum use stories like, "The house has a bug (or vermin) infestation and it's being fumigated. You can't go back there yet." Or, "there's a gas leak" or anything that he may comprehend as unsafe so for that moment the discussion doesn't devolve into him begging and you fending off. Whatever works to keep him calm.
How long has he been in the unit? If it hasn't been for long, I'd talk to the admin, who may suggest you not have contact for short while as he adjusts.
Is he on any meds for mood, anxiety, or agitation? If not, his doctor should be consulted about this possibility.
Your situation is extremely common. Are you visiting him every day? Maybe see him less for now and when he starts asking to go home you must redirect the conversation or bring something to distract him (like photos or his favorite foods).
At the quarterly care meetings for my MIL in LTC she always asks when she can go home. She has mild dementia and memory impairment and she's not mobile. Her home has been gone for 6 years. We tell her a "therapeutic fib" to keep her calm, which is the goal for someone with cognitive impairment. We don't remind her that her home is gone. We tell her that when she can walk on her own and do her ADLs then she can "leave". She always insists she can walk. Then we say, "ok then you need to show the doctor your ability and she can authorize your release" and this answer always satisfies her and gives her hope. Then the next hour or day that conversation is forgotten.
Please don't feel guilty as you've done nothing wrong. You are feeling grief, which is normal and anyone in your situation would be feeling. May you receive peace in your heart as your father settles in.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Is he on any meds for mood, anxiety, or agitation? If not, his doctor should be consulted about this possibility.
Your situation is extremely common. Are you visiting him every day? Maybe see him less for now and when he starts asking to go home you must redirect the conversation or bring something to distract him (like photos or his favorite foods).
At the quarterly care meetings for my MIL in LTC she always asks when she can go home. She has mild dementia and memory impairment and she's not mobile. Her home has been gone for 6 years. We tell her a "therapeutic fib" to keep her calm, which is the goal for someone with cognitive impairment. We don't remind her that her home is gone. We tell her that when she can walk on her own and do her ADLs then she can "leave". She always insists she can walk. Then we say, "ok then you need to show the doctor your ability and she can authorize your release" and this answer always satisfies her and gives her hope. Then the next hour or day that conversation is forgotten.
Please don't feel guilty as you've done nothing wrong. You are feeling grief, which is normal and anyone in your situation would be feeling. May you receive peace in your heart as your father settles in.