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what i can do? a man hired me to take care of his mother, but later he said that i have to do everything in the house, his mother can not move alone i have to be close to her all day long and the man is expecting me to do the home work too, i explained him that his mother is not calling me to move so she can fall down, but he is not understanding the point, i have no time to my personal stuffs even to take a shower plus im working 24 hrs at day 6 days of the week, plus the man is arguing at me about any single thing. i have to stand up in the middle of the night every time that she have to use the restroom, some times is 5 or 6 times, so i hardly can sleep. can somebody tell me if this is right?

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You are being expected to be the primary caregiver and unless you are being paid as though you are a 24/7 nurse, you should not be made to work that way. Most people either do it for their loved ones therefore not expecting pay or have shift work meaning you do certain hours, and the next caregiver does more hours, etc. I understand you seem to be a good person and want to keep your verbal agreement but it sounds to me like he's not willing to do the same by changing the terms on you all the time. I'd look for a better more reliable job. It sounds to me like you are basically adopting this person instead of caring for them and to have the man expect this out of you is not at all right. I'd advertise around the area. Look on Care.com or check out local nursing homes or adult daycares. In our area there are care agencies who get paid 13 an hour to be a PCA and they only do it for a few hours a day and are not expected to do even half of what you are doing. Please don't let someone use you in this way! You deserve better.
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There are lots of places you could work 40 hours per week and make at least $300, and have some perks and a chance for advancement.

You are being exploited. Why do you think you have to put up with this?
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thanks so much guys for your time. your sweet.
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You will never be able to reason with this man. I know you need the job, but on your one day off, look for another one. The same way you found this one, you can find another. spread the work among friends, family and previous employers that you are looking. Put up signs in hospitals, senior centers, and nursing homes...even schools, since you get $10 an hour for child care, which is a lot easier than what you are doing. You have options. From what you're telling me, you could make more money working a 40-hour week at McDonalds! Run!
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a verbal contract is not worth the paper it's written on.
since it is verbal, it is he said/she said.
leave. this could escalate.
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Here is a sample of a Caregiver Contract to use that outlines what you are to do for the client, how many hours you work, and how much you are paid per hour. https://www.agingcare.com/documents/personal_care_agreement_AgingCare.pdf

Lesson learned, never ever go into a new job situation without having something in writing. Otherwise it will come down to "he said, she said".
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Oh come on now give notice and contact APS - if he is treating you that way how is he treating his mother?
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OK, if you think you might want to stay,, get a written contract NOW.. if he wont do this,, then back to quitting.You are to be taking care of Mother.. not his maid.
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thanks e1, i will try to do it, but the problem is that the contract was verbal, there is not a paper. he is changing my duties all the time, and he is pushing me to cook for him too and he is saying that i have to smile 24 hours at day and be happy when he is back from job i m so tired of this, but i need the job. i m winning 300 per week that is less than 2 dls. the hour. so is hard. Thanks again guys!!!
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Give notice and leave.
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He does not sound like a man who would be open to renegotiating your contract based on what you do, so I would hand in my notice. It sounds like he is exploiting your caring nature to get extra work from you. You are a professional. If he wants extra services, he has to pay extra money. If you didn't have a written contract outlining your duties at this job, be sure to have one for your next job. Then if someone wants you to mop floors, you can point to the contract.
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No, quit now and find another job
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