Neither parent had been formally diagnosed as having dementia at the signing of the legal documents. Five years later, my mother has been diagnosed as having ALZ or Lewy Body. Just in the last two months, my father has been diagnosed with Vascular. I feel it would be best for my mother to enter a facility. My father is refusing to go. If I sign for her to go, would he be allowed to remove her?
I think it might be good to talk to an Elder Law attorney about how to handle this. I'd start by called the Area Agency on Aging and asking if there is any low-cost legal consultation for people in your situation.
I hope you can get her placed, and that Dad might change his mind about joining her! Keep in touch and let us know.