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More info is needed . Frustrated why ? Does Grandpa need a lot of hands on care ? Does Mom want grandpa to go in a facility but he refuses , or there are money problems ? Do you live near them ? In what way is he being neglected that you see, witnessed ? You could call APS if you have first hand examples .
What you should do first is fill in your profile and provide some more information. I'm very impressed that you are female and have lovely long legs, but it's not really relevant to this site.
Is your mom frustrated because no one else is stepping up to help her with her dad? And what kind of help does your grandpa need, and why? Have you offered to help her some so she's not quite so burned out and frustrated, and if not why not? You've not given us anything to go on so hopefully you'll be back to answer these questions so we can perhaps better help you. And if your mom is suffering from caregiver burnout, perhaps you need to tell her that it's time to place grandpa in the appropriate facility, especially if no one else is willing to help her.
Missy, maybe an example, to better answer your question, care giving is very hard work, and often comes with resentments.
Resentments of the time it's taking from you or resentments from your past.
Honestly I don't quite agree with you taking on the responsibility, this isn't your job, maybe it would be nice of you to help out mom a little, so she can get a break, but just spend time with him, it's not your responsibility, and technically it's not your moms responsibility either.
In my 60s it's my responsibility to find ways to make sure my family is boggled down with caregiving me.
Speak with your mother about any questions you have of her care of your grandfather. I am sorry to tell you that in order to get any answers on this Forum you will have to tell you what you are seeing that is of concern to you. Your subjective opinion is interesting, but we cannot possibly guess what you may mean by abuse. That said, if you have solid proof of abuse I would suggest you call APS and report this so they can open a case and speak to you and your granddad about your concerns for him. Do know, when you speak with APS, you will need to be able to report what you saw, when, where and how often.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Frustrated why ? Does Grandpa need a lot of hands on care ? Does Mom want grandpa to go in a facility but he refuses , or there are money problems ?
Do you live near them ? In what way is he being neglected that you see, witnessed ?
You could call APS if you have first hand examples .
Have you offered to help her some so she's not quite so burned out and frustrated, and if not why not?
You've not given us anything to go on so hopefully you'll be back to answer these questions so we can perhaps better help you.
And if your mom is suffering from caregiver burnout, perhaps you need to tell her that it's time to place grandpa in the appropriate facility, especially if no one else is willing to help her.
Resentments of the time it's taking from you or resentments from your past.
Honestly I don't quite agree with you taking on the responsibility, this isn't your job, maybe it would be nice of you to help out mom a little, so she can get a break, but just spend time with him, it's not your responsibility, and technically it's not your moms responsibility either.
In my 60s it's my responsibility to find ways to make sure my family is boggled down with caregiving me.
Caregiving is no fun!
I am sorry to tell you that in order to get any answers on this Forum you will have to tell you what you are seeing that is of concern to you. Your subjective opinion is interesting, but we cannot possibly guess what you may mean by abuse. That said, if you have solid proof of abuse I would suggest you call APS and report this so they can open a case and speak to you and your granddad about your concerns for him. Do know, when you speak with APS, you will need to be able to report what you saw, when, where and how often.