I relocated my mother from her hometown to an ALF near me. This was four years ago. My Mom now has stage 4 kidney failure and advanced Alzheimer's. She has been with hospice care for eight months. Now my health is deteriorating and I want to move closer to my children who are three hours away. Should I try to relocate my mother to a new memory care facility or would it be better to allow her to remain? We have no other family in my current area.
In all honesty, I thought my mother would have passed by now. Regardless, I should not delay my relocation much longer. Your opinions are appreciated.
My mom had vascular dementia, snf wanted her out and I took care of her o. Home hospice. Delusional disoriinted bedridden incontinrnt...... I. Was stressed beyond belief trying to care for her in her own home.. Inherited home but hugely expensive, delapidated, cluttered, high maintenance and property taxes.
BTW she passed away in March 2020, now do not want to live in inherited house.... Very costly.
Realtor suggested too depressing for me to stay here and it is... Even hospital bed still here as remindrance. Move to an apt and he will arrange decluttering and try to sell the house even demolish it sell property.
But to pay for apt, have a dog.. Love her but barks hard to manage ..... And suppose house won't sell?
House taxes maintenance huge and so depressing here..... Nervous breakdown from it all....drained..... No life here.... Don't know where to live affordabley.
Aftee all this..... A mother with advanced vascular dementia, died inherited her hose that I hate huge expenses. Should I have realtor try to sell it even for just the property and get an apt that allows dogs?
Mom wouldn't let me move out of her home to take care of her and downstairs get my own place..... Now stuck with her horrible expensive house high maintenance fees..... Should I find an apt that's reasonable for price and dog and hand house over to realtor?
Worst time of my life..... Caring for demented mom and inheriting her awful house..... She not letting me get my own place but demanding I stay and help her...... Now where to go and what to do.
Narcissitic mother worried only for herself no empathy for me.....
. Now ptsd panic intense depression 66 years old...
Think suicide only way out of it all........ Totally burned out.