My mom is dealing with heart issues, she has been on hospice for 18 months. Hospice has made us get 24/7 care for mom and she does not want it and she does not think she needs it. She has lived alone for 40+ years, she is able to fix food for herself, sitting in a chair and has someone come in 2-5 times a week. Hospice has indicated that the 24/7 care is precautionary, all of the examples they give mom, she is like, so that could happen to anyone. I see her point, I feel her pain, but Hospice has provided me with peace and comfort. She has made great friends with her team, but she thinks they are just wrong on requiring 24/7 care. She is very "with it" mentally and I have always wanted her to make her health decisions, but I am also told that social services can be called and then what happens? I want her to be happy and safe for her last few days, months, years. Any advice, guidance is greatly appreciated!
It has nothing to do with her being with it. Its felt that because of the weakening of her heart, someone should be with her. Maybe a deal can be made since a neighbor checks on her often, that someone be with her at night. You don't have to hire someonebit can be family or a friend.
I absolutely understand your mom‘s argument of living with risk the way she chooses. I think you and your mom need to really understand what the hospice agency’s bottom line is to make a decision. Good luck and keep us posted.
There must be a reason that the Hospice Team does not think she is safe on her own. Have you talked to the team to find out why they are asking for a 24/7 caregiver? Are they seeing something you are not?