Good day, I am please to found this site in hopes of some professional help? I have a mother who is 77 years age no other family but me in Ontario Canada depends on me for constant help. I work full time in another city plus travel and can work 10 hours plus a day.
My mom was a 911 call last Christmas doctors told me for her ready to pass at any moment. Somehow it’s been 8 months now she lives in the living room never seen her upstairs bedroom in this time yet nor can use a washroom. Uses a Komodo and demands me to take her waste out. She still owns a car but hardly goes out. She just spends her day and sometimes night watching cable tv. I tried having serious discussions that my factory job is not enough to have her move. Then tells me her old age pension is not enough. This is costing me relationships, I don’t get time to myself and if I try to talk about anything it’s my duty to take care of her and I should shut up cause I’m stressing her. I do care but this is not marking happy memories for me and don’t know what to do!
First find out about home care options and also Long Term Care options in your community. It maybe easier to start with in home care. Here in BC it is subsidized at $37/day. I am sure Ontario has a similar program.
Here is Canada we have affordable long term care, but there maybe a wait list. We do not have the challenges of having to apply for Medicaid, provide up to 5 years of banking records etc that is needed in the US.
Once you get home card set up, get her on a list for residential care.
But before all that please ensure she has her Will and POA documents in order. If she is mentally competent, get them updated is needed. Make sure the POA gives you authority to sell her house.